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Biggest Turn off

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  1. Acuba403

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    What is your biggest turn off when it comes to dating?

    Mine is smoking.
     
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    Being boring
     
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    too many tattoos/piercings
     
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    This and also smoking (though I can be lenient if they don't do it around me and use gum/breath mints a lot) and arrogance.
     
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    People who can't speak for themselves.
     
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    Smoking, drinking, assholeness, tattoos/some piercings (one in the nose looks cute)
     
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    This [YOUTUBE]bF8WKv9sQaU[/YOUTUBE]
    plus smoking, excessive tattoos, and piercings.
     
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    Tie between arrogance and having a judgmental attitude.
     
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    Not having anything intelligent to say? I like having philosophical discussions.
     
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    I think that tattoos and piercings are hot (just not the massive ones)
     
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    I do too, but change that piercings to ALL piercings. They are not hot at all. A few tattoos are hot but not dozens and dozens
     
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    I've found that lack of perspective or opinions is totally tolerable; you can get intelligent discussions elsewhere as long as you can connect to them on some other level.

    It's contempt or denial of challenge that bothers me. Probably the biggest sore point in my relationship right now is that she is a nihilist who'd probably drown by choice before putting forth the effort to grab the edge of the pool. If she doesn't understand something, fine. If she rejects it as pointless, or ironically, stupid, I am disgusted and alienated. Especially if it's something with some depth I've shown interest in; at that point she won't even humor me, let alone trust my judgment.

    She's a great person overall and I want to stay with her, but were I to get back in the game I'd choose someone with more humility and zest for life, regardless of intellect or education.
     
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    Being narrow minded/blatantly disrespectful. I'm okay if they disagree with me on things, but if a conversation about it is impossible I'm not too into that. And if they're just rude and all about it then...

    Something along those lines.
     
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    Oh man, that's a tough one because I have so many.

    I'd have to say my biggest turnoff is probably when someone who is so full of themselves they think that the entire conversation should revolve around them. I get it, if we're on a first date, some small talk about yourself is fine, and maybe even a conversation or two is fine. But whenever every sentence has "I" or "me" in it, I start to get turned off.
     
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    If you lack ambition. I understand, life sucks sometimes, and we may need a day or two to mope, but get up and back into it.

    If you lack manners. I'm not going to expect you to place a napkin in your lap, but if you start smacking your food, with bits and pieces raining down, it isn't going to look very sexy.

    If you lack respect. Don't think I'm an idiot, don't think you can take advantage of me, and don't think I'm your punching bag. Even if I'm in the wrong, we can be mature about this, it's what adults do. I am not a pedophile, I want a man/woman!

    If you lack communication skills. I don't expect you to be Sherlock Holmes and bombard me with some word salad, and we all need time to cope and deal with things, but at some point communicating with me is necessary. Especially if we need to do something about a situation.

    If you lack humility. I have a big ego, though it can be hard to tell (Ha!). But I know when to cut that shit out. I don't have to always let the world know how amazing I believe I am, because it's a fact really-hard-to-argue opinion. There's something very appealing to me about somebody who, confident, is able to tend and comfort others, without worrying about losing their edginess.

    If you lack affection. We probably won't be entangled in each other's arms 24/7, as lovely as that thought can be, but there will probably be times words can only do so much, and just resting with somebody is the therapy I need. See, it isn't the Eskimo kisses, the gentle tickles, the stupid inside jokes whispered, as wonderful as these are, it's knowing somebody cares about me enough to remind me why it is so important to get my head back in the game -- I have my circle to take care of, God damn it!

    Bigotry is not sexy either. You can take your gender-slandering, religious-mongering, racist nonsense the hell on out of here. This doesn't really need to be explained further, I hope.

    Try-hards. Don't overcompensate around me. Embrace who you are, rock what you've got, and you'll be fine. There is little else as frustrating as somebody that needs to prove how AWESOME/SMART/STRONG/RIGHT they are. If you are one of these, be it, don't force it.

    Finally, and most importantly, if you listen to Nickelback. I will throw your ass out of the car, and don't think I won't!

    LOL.

    <3
     
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    I guess my biggest turn-off would be being a bitch. It stems from my hatred for my sadistic sister. She's a bitch 24/7.
     
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