I'm pretty sure you can. Do you mean to say you don't think you have? Or you might have but you're not sure? I don't know it this will help you but I heard it described once like a sneeze. First, a feeling that it might happen, then, the feeling that it will happen, then tension and then ... sneeze. Followed by a nice feeling. Is this close to what you were looking for?
Men have it so easy in that regard. But we are women, and it's sometimes more complicated for us. There is a mind/body/hand triangle that we have to master, and it doesn't always just happen. I am so proud of you for wondering and asking. I was in my 30's before it happened. I didn't know what I was doing most of my life. Religious upbringing/shame/guilt/being with a guy when i might be gay. There is the physical part. You can try kegel exercises, they are really beneficial. Then there is the harder mental part. This website is really good: >>>VICE: How to Have An Orgasm with Your Vagina<<< I'm still surprised when I have them and not an expert at all, but I want you to have them sooner than later, because you DESERVE to have them. Don't wait for a partner to give them to you, it is your own body and if you know how it "works" than you can help a partner get you there. Don't waste years like I did! You can do this. You will know if it happens, like a big release and your breathing changes. Best of luck, you can do it!!
You'll get there, just don't get worried that it won't happen. If you relax about getting to orgasm it might actually help! Just enjoy the pleasant sensations and let your body respond how it will. For me an orgasm frequently starts with every muscle in my body tightening. When I first started feeling orgasms I actually would stop at this point because it was uncomfortable. (Now I know what it means, and that makes it worth it) Then it's like waves of pleasure, and I shiver/quiver. And then I feel my whole body flush warm and relax. Sometimes I can feel like Sporn said, but that's not always the case. It can be extremely intense sometimes, but most of the time is rather mild. Just depends on the day. Also, at least for me, every day is different with what will trigger the orgasm. For me it's all been about letting go of my preconceived ideas of what "should" work and learning instead what actually does work. I've been very surprised sometimes!
Yeah, that makes sense. I think it may have happened, but it's nothing that great. I have never had sex so I only have myself to sort it out. I'm also on SSRIs which makes my sexual function not that great.
I've recently been through a period of stress and it DOES make it harder to orgasm, or to orgasm for long enough to really be sure if you're inexperienced. It really is different for everyone and every time. Fantasising can help. I often get really flushed hot and tense, and it almost feels too much then is like a release, and waves of pleasure, then everything relaxes. Try to relax and take you time finding what works for you - if you're having labido issues the build up will be even more important, in my experience.
I just get bored when masturbating. For real I get nothing from it and it feels like a chore. I'll lie there for half an hour and it gets better but I never feel release. I got some lube from the school nurse so I hope that helps.
When I first started masturbating, it felt good but not... well, great. I thought I had to be missing something. Was I doing something wrong? Why wasn't it as wonderful as people described? A few years have gone by now and I've gotten much better at it. Now it feels amazing. The thing is that once you start masturbating, you have to learn how to do it to your liking. As you get better at doing what you like, the orgasms get better. Well, sometimes. They will still vary and every once in awhile I'll get one that leaves me in a sour mood because it wasn't great. Hope this helped~
I dunno but I'd say that if you did orgasm you'd know it. Have you ever tried to masturbate when you weren't on SSRI? I didn't know what the abbreviation means so googled for it and found "SSRIs can cause various types of sexual dysfunction such as anorgasmia".
Yeah I haven't even been on SSRI for a year so I have done so before then. But even so it still felt like a chore.
Hmmm, like tipthescales said sometimes it can take time to learn what your body wants. There are so many different places to touch and ways to touch them that it can be a real leaning curve. Orgasm is also harder for some women than others, so again, just relax and don't expect miracle differences immediately. Toys can be your friend if you can get ahold of them. Lube is also a really good idea. Some women find music or certain smells to help as well. Good luck!
