Parents reaction to coming out?

I don't remember my mom's reaction, but my dad said he already knew, and "It's not like she can get you pregnant, so go for it"

 

I guess my mum's reaction wasn't as good as I was hoping. She said stuff like, "You need to deal with what you have," "Accept that you're female," and also, "You need to respect our traditions." I don't quite know why she said that last one since our culture is way more accepting to LGBT stuff. We haven't really talked about trans stuff since but I think she's trying to accept it in her own way(or she just doesn't care, I don't know). I haven't even touched on my sexuality but I don't really feel that that needs any explaining at all since it's pretty obvious(or it should be by now).

 

I got the whole "maybe you're just confused" reaction. They can be accepting, but I'm sure they just want me to be sure...

 

My dad: "It's okay, you're still my daughter. What are you crying for?"

My mom: "Then adopt children when you're an adult. I want grandchildren, understood? And, I've suspected this for a while, actually..."

My dad seemed totally fine with it, and my mom seemed sort of awkward about it.

 

My dad had no clue but was fine. My mom was like I'm so proud of you it's ok I've known since you were 3.

 

My mom was very surprised, she didn't see it coming at all, and she just asked why wait so long and why now (I was 20).
Haven't spoken to my father in years and he won't ever know so thats one awkward conversation less.

 

Shouldn't this be on the coming out stories fourm

---------- Post added 30th Aug 2015 at 05:27 PM ----------

Thats a bit harsh does she think your her slave? Lol

 

She just really wants to be a grandparent, I think.

 

Haha

 

When I decided to come out, I was hoping for just a "fine", "whatever" reaction, I didn't even want anyone to be excited and make a big deal out of it, nor did I want them to be angry and upset. When I told my mum, well actually she guessed I was going to tell her since she knew I had met a guy online who I always referred to as my "friend", and she had an idea there was something more to it. Well my mum was fine with it, it was just how I wanted her to react. My dad is different, he kept saying that I didn't act gay so he doesn't understand how I can be, and I kept explaining that you don't have to act like gay to be gay. It was 3 years ago and he never talks about it and every now and again he keeps asking when I am going to get a girlfriend and start a family.

 

Well, I had wanted to come out for about a year, but couldn't manage to do it directly.
Eventhough I was 99,99 infinite % sure they'd be acceptive, there's still some kind of treshold to actually having their full atention on you and you having to say: I'm bisexual.
Especially since I'm pansexual, which is rarely heard of, bisexual already being rarely mentioned around here.

Anyway I decided to buy some bi/pansexual t-shirts online, so I could wear them and have my parents notice. Funny thing, although at the time stressful thing, was that they were home and in the livingroom when the t-shirts arrived and I had to unpack them. So the surprise was still there only a bit different.

They were and still are completely accepting. My mother's first question was how I knew and I told her I'd been attracted to both women (3) and men (2) in the past. My dad said something to the extent that he was fine with it. Don't remember the exact words.

Back to the present: my mother rarely mentions it, but doesn't act different/distant. My father sometimes mentions LGBT related issues when he notices them in the news and has offered to buy me LGBT related shirts a couple of times since I came out.

The topic rarely comes up though, due to me rarely being attracted to someone. If you did not know any better you might think I'm asexual.

 

Tell your dad that you will destroy the life of the girl who will be your wife. You can't bring her happiness or romantic life. And you won't feel happy or something like that if you get married

 

Mom : i love you no matter what.
Dad : I'd rather go to hell.
that's the gist of it.

 

Confused, and in denial at first.

My mother is now accepting.

 

Can't your little sister provide her grandchildren?

 

Dad laughed, Mum cried

 

My mom: That's OK. You're still my son and I will always love you no matter what.

My dad? Well, I have a stepdad, but I'm not quite there yet.

 

My dad was, "I had a feeling 'cause you never brought home any girls."
My mom was laughing at first.. Few days later crying.. and now two months on she doesn't mention it at all so still in denial.

 

22 years ago I told my Mom of my suspicions and she has always had the same outlook: she wants whatever makes me happy. My Dad, well he passed a few years back and never knew anything.
And btw I think its wonderful all the positive responses different posters got from their parents. A parent should never let something like this interfere with how they feel about their child.