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Would you give up your name when you get married?

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by QueerTransEnby, Aug 29, 2015.

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Would you give up your name when you get married?

Poll closed Nov 27, 2015.

  1. No.

    33 vote(s)
    32.7%

  2. Yes.

    20 vote(s)
    19.8%

  3. Maybe.

    36 vote(s)
    35.6%

  4. Not getting married, period.

    12 vote(s)
    11.9%
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  1. rudysteiner

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    I take a lot of pride in my last name, and I wouldn't like to lose it, but if I do get married, and my relationship with my family around then is non-existent, then I might consider a double-barrel. I'm not a fan of 'meshing' the surnames up though, as I believe you can do now.
     
    #61 rudysteiner, Aug 31, 2015
  2. Zannan

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    Depends.

    If for some reason I I get married (I don't see the need.), I will consider it.

    My family and I have a horrible relationship but my last name is so common that it is incredibly difficult to trace me.

    I hate my last name though. So I don't know.

    But if they have a really common or weird last name, (unsatisying last names are common here.) then no for weird last name and I might at least hyphenate for common one.

    But for the love of Pete, don't take mine.
     
    #62 Zannan, Aug 31, 2015
  3. Gamer4now

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    I don't love my last name but it's very common and if I loved my partner and we had a great relationship than I would definitely change my last name.
     
    #63 Gamer4now, Aug 31, 2015
  4. Black Cat

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    I'm not attached to my last name. My paternal grandfather would be horrified to find out I was marrying a man, let alone taking his name. I'm the only male heir to my surname, but some things don't need to live on into the future.

    I do like how Jewish it is though. Ultimately it depends on how my husband-to-be feels about it too. And I don't foresee myself having that discussion for quite some time to come.
     
    #64 Black Cat, Aug 31, 2015
  5. Skaros

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    I don't think I would. I wouldn't ask him to give it up either if he didn't want to.
     
    #65 Skaros, Aug 31, 2015
  6. MCairo

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    Depends on how his name would sound...or how powerful his family would be haha.
    I like my last name though and I probably wouldn't want to hyphenate.
     
    #66 MCairo, Aug 31, 2015
  7. ChameleonSoul

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    I voted yes. I've never been a fan of my last name as it (along with my middle name) have very negative ties for me. My entire father's family disgusts me so even if I were to marry a woman I'd take her last name too. Aside from that my middle name is the same as my asshole father's first name so once I graduate college I'm changing that as well.
     
    #67 ChameleonSoul, Aug 31, 2015
  8. kyfry

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    I was adopted so if my last name changed, i wouldnt mind at all as I have no history to it.
     
    #68 kyfry, Aug 31, 2015
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