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For homosexuals of either gender..

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by rudysteiner, Aug 7, 2015.

  1. rudysteiner

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    Hey everyone,

    This is a question for 'those who only experience same sex attraction'? I don't know how to put it..

    Anyway..

    From time to time, I experience sexual/emotion attraction to people of the opposite gender although I identify as gay. Does anyone else have this, or is it just me? Apparently it's called homoflexibility but I'm not sure if that's a made up sexuality? (I apologise if it is). These little experiences last a few days at most.

    Is it just me?

    Thanks,

    Joe.
     
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    Well I identify as gay but I very much enjoy foreplay with my girlfriend when I'm horny, yet the two of us identify as gay. I think it's possible and it happens to some of us at best :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:
     
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    I don't follow though? you both identify as gay & lesbian I presume.. but are girlfriend & boyfriend, not judging.. but wouldn't that then make you guys Bisexual?
     
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    For some reason I've only felt this way towards my lesbian friends. It's not really an erotic attraction, but more like just wanting to "do something". I know I'll always be gay, but I think we should embrace our flexibility, even if at times it might seem scary. :slight_smile:
     
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    This confused me too, but I hope I'm not the only one none the less :slight_smile:
     
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    Not exactly, I have a thread on this, search it up on my profile if you're interested.
     
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    That's exactly it, but it's with girls I'll see while I'm in a bookshop (horrible cliché I know) or somewhere like that. I think it might be the possible shared interest in something plus a beautiful exterior making me feel like I 'fancy' them. I too know I'll always be gay, but I've always said that if I truly fall in love with someone of the opposite gender and vice versa, I won't stop it from happening.
     
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    No, it is not a made-up.
    It depends on how you experience it. If it is frequent enough and if you want to act on it- you might be bi.
    We experience attraction to people on all sorts of levels - emotional, sexual, sensual etc.
    It is possible that a person who is of the gender usually outside of your preference will exhibit some characteristics you find generally attractive.- this will give you a response, it does not change being gay.
     
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    That makes sense now, but as long as you're both happy that's all that matters.

    I wouldn't say I experience it frequently, it's more of a passing thing that doesn't have a set time distance, I could have it one day, 3 days after that, and then 7 months afterwards. Thanks for the reply!
     
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    There are instances where I find women attractive, but in addition to being much less intense than the attraction I feel towards males, there is something about it that's slightly different, and I don't know how to explain it. Like, even if I do feel some degree of attraction to some women, seeing them won't really give me this sense of awe that attractive men give me, as corny as that sounds.

    Also, I can become physically aroused if I can see that someone is experiencing sexual pleasure, so for that reason, lesbian porn (as long as it's genuine) can arouse me very much. Additionally, I like it when others find me attractive, and that alone can make me very aroused, even if it's a woman who finds me attractive (I know, I sound like a total narcissist right now).

    Because of all this, I have had fantasies about women in the past, but I still identify as gay. There's a part of it that I just don't know how to explain, but what it boils down to is that I know that identifying as bisexual just doesn't feel right or true to me.

    Honestly, it's really not that big of a deal. As long as you know what makes you happy and what you want out of a relationship and know how to relay that to others in a way you're okay with, that's all that matters. I could identify as "homoflexible," which I honestly believe I am, but it's not like I'll be left unsatisfied if I never sleep with a woman, even if I can, so I don't feel the need to make sure that others are aware of the feelings I described above. So for me, just saying that I'm gay is sufficient. But if you or someone else feels differently that's okay. And if you're not sure, you can experiment with different labels to see what feels best for you.
     
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    Just like the heterosexuals should! Awww yeah what I would give to get my hands on one of those ''straight'' girls! :lol:

    Just messing around.. To be honest I think if something feels good it feels good.. If I ever get lonely enough I might go find some guy that I feel respects me and use him for my own sexual desire/frustration. I don't know.. Something about craving sexual acts can turn me into almost what I would call a ho. Honestly though.. It's easier for me to get a guys attention because I look straight so.. Yeah.

    I'd still prefer to fuck a cute woman though :wink: xx
     
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    I think I've found two of my supposed seven doppelgängers on this thread alone and you seem to be the second. Again, this is exactly how I feel and I'm the same with the being aroused by someone's sexual pleasure regardless of the sex, I even get a semi if a friend or similar compliments my personality :bang:
     
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    Yes, I've clipped the quote and removed the context. But these words, in any context, disturb me, and are telling.
     
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    they are telling of what?

    They are not nice.. but I think they might have been said in jest?
     
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    I experience that from time to time, but I'm also about a Kinsey 5 or so. I have no desire to "be with" a woman, but I find a few of them cute & attractive.

    Sexuality isn't binary. You can still be gay and feel things for the opposite gender.
     
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    It was in jest.. Sarcasm if you will :lol:

    I wouldn't do that to a guy.. I'm not that cruel. I don't think I could ever have sex with a guy tbh.. Not for me :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:
     
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    From the looks of this thread it seems like gay men are a lot more open than gay women on this forum...interesting observation :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:
     
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    I'm like an old granny with her handbag.. You can try take the handbag off me but I smack the shit outta you.. Cause it's my handbag.. And I like my handbag.
     
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