Why do some many people dislike oral sex?

They just crazy! Oral is sooo erotic! Love the moans a woman gives when performing oral on her so cute! xx

 

I used to have a problem with it, but as long as it's hygienic I'm up for it (or should I say down for it?). I would hesitate on eating out ass however, don't want no e choli

 

Straight women seem to dislike performing oral sex on men, and straight men seem to dislike performing oral sex on women. Seems like both gay men and women either don't mind or enjoy giving oral sex to their partner.

Personally speaking, I love performing oral sex on guys.

 

That's the thing.

To you, there may be no issue. But ask a woman, and you'll get a wide variety of answers when it comes to performing oral sex on a man. Everything from they just don't like it to they feel uncomfortable, with extremes on either end.

With men performing oral on a woman, the answers differ as well but there seems to be a more black and white mentality. Either they like it or they find it too alien. Exceptions do exist of course, but it's something interesting to take notice of. It's also the core of many complaints and jokes between men-women couples.

For whatever reasons, performing oral sex on someone can come off as being vulnerable, or perhaps even feeling violated. Some don't think of it like that, some not as bad, but considering how pornography (an influence, whether we want to admit it or not) guides the world -- just hang around or talk to a lot of boys and young men, and while it may not be all of them, more than enough think porn is how sex actually goes down -- it is something to take a look at.

Just some observations shared. Take it for what you will.

 

Man, you are a smart one. I think you're right to a large degree. However, I think that slightly more men dislike performing oral sex on women than there are women who dislike performing oral sex on men. I think women may not like when they have to ingest the ejaculate. When it's real close, they can be warned so they can avoid that.

I think that, for LGB* folks, as far a I know and have heard, it's a bigger piece of the puzzle.

* I'm not trying to be exclusionary, but I personally don't know any T folks.

 

Neither my girlfriend OR I like receiving oral, though we both like to give it. So I guess we're in the opposite situation :lol:. It just doesn't do anything for me or her!

I let her perform on me though, not for selfish reasons but because it's erotic for her, even if it's not my cup of tea. And anything that turns her on turns me on so honestly it's alright in the long run.

 

Personally, never liked receiving or giving, any gender or genitalia. Which has never really been an issue, but I'm concerned it may be in the future :lol: I feel like if I was with someone who wanted it, I would do it without it bothering me, but I'm probably not budging on receiving. It just makes me... wildly uncomfortable. Immediately shuts me down.

 

Not exactly, which is why I'm more open to giving. The idea of oral in general turns me off quite a bit, but if it were giving, and I wouldn't have to be aroused, I would be okay with it. So I guess it's not even a dislike, it's more of a turn off. And for that, I have no idea why.

 

Yeah, that was my immediate reaction. :lol:

 

As Elaine from Seinfeld always said regarding the opposite sex, "How am I supposed to be an expert? I only have so much access to the equipment."

 

Why's that surprising? maybe some people just don't like it, just like some people don't like to cuddle or frot.

 

I think some people also think that the giver doesn't get any pleasure out of the act, and is just doing it for the receiver. I disagree and am like the op. Some people genuinely get their own satisfaction out of giving pleasure. I have to be careful though with admitting this fact...some people are surprised to find out that someone can like to give pleasure! I didn't realize that so many people were repulsed by giving oral sex.

 

I completely agree with you, well said.

 

Bisexual women can like giving oral too!

 

Selfishness is in what you do, not what you like.

I don't have to like turning my partner's dirty socks right-side-out in order for our laundry to get done. It could even be argued that the less I like it, the more altruistic (and less selfish) my laundry days are. Even otherwise, it depends on one's partner's preferences, doesn't it? If they like to give and dislike receiving, then there's no conflict of interest to be selfish over in the first place.

Why pretend?

Sure, there are plenty of people who prefer to receive from someone who enjoys giving, but there are plenty of people who prefer to receive from redheads, too, and I'm not dying my hair over it. If what my partner wants isn't something I can give, they're free to look elsewhere.

 

Some people just find it gross I guess; which is completely fine. I love the idea of it through.

 

It's kind of a sick joke. We are given the potential to have these amazing feelings through stimulation but they are from the same parts that we do our "business."

However I imagine when you're really turned on, the gross-out factor lessens. Otherwise no one would have sex.

 

Some people find it dirty.

I don't. It is like kissing, exchanging fluids with a loved one.


Sorry to be so explicit!