Im so scared I will never meet anyone and will be alone forever. I have no idea what to do Ive tried everything I can think of but nothing works :bang: :bang:
Hey Molly1977, You aren't alone. A lot of people feel the same way. What types of things have you done to meet people? Let us know how we can help. (*hug*)
Molly, what things have you done to try to meet people? Don't be scared, a lot of us are going through the same thing. Bi2me said it perfectly, let us know how we can help.
Molly me echo the last couple of replys. I'd love nothing better than to be with someone. That said I just Came Out on March. Don't know when you Came Out, however it takes time. What I've learned in my years on this earth is that when you least expect something to happen it will. Smile, enjoy today, things will get better.
I can relate. I just realized I was a lesbian a few months ago, and I live in a tiny conservative town and have no way to meet anyone. I tried a dating site and ran away because they just wanted cheap hook ups. I am lonely and afraid I will spend the rest of my life by myself.
Get your profile out there on a few of the more "non sex hookup" dating sights and let it float. Someone will find ya. I know people who were ready to give up, when someone found them. Later
Hi Molly.. Are there any LGBT centers in your town? Any events that involve our community you can volunteer for? Do you have lesbian meetup groups in your area? If the community is small where you live, there is always online. Dont give up, as all you need is one...that very special someone that can change everything. Stay positive and try to keep a happy energy around you. That will draw her to you.
With the elections coming up - get in involved with a candidate of your choice. Forget about meeting someone. You'll be surprised what can happen when you stop looking and just get involved.
Its hard to find some one to be with but you shouldn't give up because than you will never find someone.
I hear ya, Molly. It's tough to continue being so patient and persistent when it seems nothing you try pans out. Keep the positive energy flowing: affirm yourself lavishly ("You're awesome!"); celebrate your accomplishments shamelessly, no matter how big or small; journal your thoughts, wishes, and intentions regularly; get out of the house, be physically active, and socialize (even when you don't feel like it). Keep going!
I used to feel the same way honestly, and it is not a good feeling. What do you like to do for fun? Perhaps, you can find someone to talk to about a common interest while you're out having fun. For me, I notice women with piercings because I have a lot myself, so it's a common interest and an easy way to break the ice. Believe me, I used to be EXTREMELY shy, but I made shit happen lol. If anything, fake until you make it.
Hi Molly! The only thing I can say is something you said to me. Always be positive. Meaning the lackluster one may be feeling in oneself can only be like that if one chooses to let it happen. I was told once that if life is going really well then something isn’t right. So embracing the madness and having patience can really be unattainable sometimes, but we got to keep moving forward. Wishing you nothing but the best
Molly, firstly, I don't think you will be alone forever. You might need to wait a while, but in all probability, such a nice person as yourself will find someone to share intimacy with, someday. In the meantime, please try to find ways to be more emotionally self-sufficient. I'm in a similar position to yourself. I see myself as a decent, kind-hearted person, and I've had this said to me fairly often - but I've been alone for years now, lonely as hell and sometimes it makes me doubt that I am such a nice person after all, since no-one seems to want me (in that way). So I'm digging in so to speak, making an effort to be emotionally resilient enough to nurture myself, to NOT 'need' anyone else. Oh I know that's tough if you are a naturally affectionate person, with a lot to give a potential mate! It can burn my heart at times. But it's a matter of psychological survival. Many folks have an intimate partner, but many also do not. It's not a guarantee in life, and I think that a kind of balance needs to be achieved: yes, remain open so that, if an opportunity arises, you can actually perceive it and embrace it; but also, remain somewhat detached in the sense that, even if you remain alone for some time yet, you have a base of love within yourself that external circumstances cannot assail. I've seen the thoughtfulness you have for others here on ec, including myself. Cherish that about yourself, cherish who you are as a person, and if possible take a measure of joy just from being the good, kind person you are. While you wait, and I don't think you will have to wait forever, learn how to nurture and emotionally sustain yourself. Personally, I am being forced to do this, as it's either that, or keep getting more depressed and despondent. (*hug*)
I'm new here but I just wanted to suggest that if you aren't happy with your life as it is, maybe some counseling would help? I think it can be hard to find someone to be with if you aren't already happy with yourself...Do you suffer from depression in general?
