Feeling alone

I've been feeling the same way lately.
I haven't had a gf before either. I don't know what it's like to have someone you love like that and I desperately want it.

I don't know how I can really help you, because I know that mostly anything I say won't do any good. Lonely is lonely. I just remind myself to be patient. That's all I can really do. But know that no matter how far away having that person beside you seems, it will happen someday. And it'll have been worth the wait.

Good luck and loads of hugs No one is alone.

 

Hhhh, I just want to stop by here to say don't give up your hope!!!

I was recently feeling the exact same way; I'd never had a girlfriend/boyfriend/etc before and thought I'd never find someone, and be alone for many years to come.
I had felt hopeless and just gave up on looking for someone because I thought no one could like/love a person like me, even if I could allow myself to even enter a relationship because of my dysphoria (and for fear of disappointing them because of this).

Recently (This week!!!) I found out it wasn't true at all and just found love when I least expected to!
I don't want to sugar-coat this, because I can't say who it will be, or even when it will happen, but please please, don't give up! Everyone has a chance at finding someone.

I am shy and introverted too, but I think it could help to do something like attend clubs (for hobbies & interests) and meet people there that have similar interests as you. It's much easier to connect with people if there is a shared interest, and something special could blossom from there.
And as Romin said, be patient, the wait is definitely worth it!


That's all I can say for now, but I wish you good luck, and I hope some other people here can also provide more/better advice. (*hug*)

 

I found my first boyfriend at a trading card store. We'd play together on the weekends till our relationship blossomed into love. Sadly there were complications and we had to split up. I am feeling kinda forsaken now as I am going through the process of transitioning alone. I know hope isn't lost because I met some really nice new people at a weekly LGBT drop in. Much hugs. (*hug*)

 

Hi, same here. I don´t believe I´ll ever find anyone special. And I´m feeling lonesome, like the last man on Earth.
I don´t know what to do.

 

I'm going to tell you something that no one else will be able to, okay?
Stop looking, just stop it. Before you get yourself a girlfriend, you need to love yourself first. You cannot just get a girlfriend because you want to feel special, no. You have to feel special already before you have someone. Before you date, make up a purpose for why you need a girlfriend. The purpose shouldn't be because you're lonely and you want to feel special, it should be because you're ready to be with someone who respects themselves too. Why do people date? Because they're trying to find the person they're going to marry some-day, right? You can't let yourself feel down, because people will take advantage of you. Don't make yourself small, please don't. If you really want a girlfriend, you have to know that you're beautiful. Say that to yourself. Go look in the mirror and say to yourself that you're beautiful. Say this until you actually believe it. I'm in the exact same situation as you, but I've seen people get taken advantage of because they didn't feel okay with themselves already. Please don't be that person that let's themselves become vulnerable. That's all I've got to say. Thank you for reading this. And remember that you're beautiful, and always will be.​

 

Doesn´t work for me, sorry