Hi Some (all) of you are not going to like this... Look back when you were a toddler just potty trained did you hate yourself for being out of diapers? Look back to when puberty hit did you hate yourself for the changes? Look now... You are 35, 45, 65 you are not 25 anymore and there have been changes yet you plug along not hating yourself for the inevitabities that time and life bring. Do you constantly struggle with life? Why? You are wasting your life with pointless struggle. We all hear endlessly "I cannot accept..." of course you can. You have accepted change your whole life. You are choosing not to. Do not blame others for even if you choose to let them run your life you are choosing that. You choose. Your choice. Stop telling others and yourself you have no choice. Anyone alive knows you can choose, you can change any choice you have made. If you want you can even choose diapers. How do you want to live? It is your choice. Change is only as difficult as you choose to make it.
Willingness to change/adapt with the changing times is the key... one can want to change as much as they want but until they are willing to change status quo will exist...
Exactiy. Something like the tree that doesn't bend breaks. You can't change the past, but you can choose to accept it and change your future. It's not easy, and it's not like you can automatically flip a switch, but if you want to begin the process you need to choose it yourself.
There is an emotional piece that this thread doesn't capture. Thinking that you want to change with emotional conflict does not flip the switch. Knowing that you must change with the aligned emotions does flip the switch. Most choices get sabotaged because the underlying emotions have not been dealt with. Of course the most powerful choices occur when people see the benefit of action outweighing the pain of inaction, they commit and change happens.
