Very very aggravating dysphoria. Like nooooooooo. Penis why you be there? It just like really freaking hard. I came out to my parents last week and it went good, but tomorrow they want to talk, but I really just want to be called by my preferred name and pronouns. I didn't push it last week, but this week has been especially hard because they know, but the keep calling me by my birth name and "he/him". They probably think I'm fine with it, but I'm not. It is slowly killing me. The problem, however, lies in my little brothers. I have two 11 year old brothers. Twins, but polar opposites. They are decently mature for their age, and I think they could somewhat deal with the news. Obviously they will have tons of questions, but thats okay. I just hate being their brother. But even talking to my parents about this is scary. My parents are in shock still I'm sure, but I've repressed this for so long. In a perfect world, I would wake up tomorrow and get HRT and a shitload of girly clothes. But thats not going to happen. What is in my mind a logical request, is to ask for girly shampoo and soap, panties (which will be ackwardddd), permission to shave my legs and all other non head hair, and maybe, just maybe, be thought of as their daughter. Am I asking to much? I just came out a week ago but after a lifetime of hiding and shame, I'm just fed up with it all. I need to be seen as female, even if I don't socially transition for a while. I also wanna go to the LGBT+ center in my area. They have a gender identity group that meets twice a month but the second mostly meeting was a few days ago. They have an open night thing that might be cool. I also want to see a gender therapist. My current therapist is really awesome, but I think I would benefit from seeing a gender specialist, and its the first step to HRT, which is still probably gonna be a long way away tl;dr I came out last week as trans and I want to be thought of as a girl and get a few girly things, is that too much to ask?
I don't think it's too much to ask-- it's not financially implausible or anything, just the whole experience might be a bit jarring for your parents at first, and it'll probably take a bit of time for your parents to get used to you as a daughter. If I understand correctly, they haven't raised any other daughters, so it's going to be a learning experience for them. Other than that, I have no clue since I haven't had that experience. But it sounds like you're doing all the right things, and it sounds (from what you've written) like your parents are doing their best to understand.
I don't think it's to much to ask, but it cost money, and I have no idea if your parents have it. Of course, it isn't to much to ask really, but girls clothes are more expensive then boys(not panties though) so I cannot see why not.
Next you talk about this subject with your parents, try to make them understand that it hurts to be called what you're not. And that all they have to do, is call you by female pronouns and whatever you want to be called. There is NEVER a valid excuse to call someone inappropriate pronouns. When me and my friends are chillin alone outside, and I say she to one of my trans friends I just make sure to yell F**k very loudly and say he XD
Nothing is to much to ask for. Being able to wear girly cloths, and assories has improved my life so much. I came out to my parents last week, and they were so kind and accepting. They did ask alot of questions though. Not having to hide in my room makes me feel so free, and alive. I have sizible wardrobe now with everything from short shorts to party dresses. I also am collecting makeup, and nail polish or any other cosmetics I might need. Going out shopping has been alot of fun. A few tips include: go for sale items, girls cloths are flipping expensive. No I'm not paying $200.00 for that dress. Also as a biological male it's hard to try stuff on (more so underwear) so buy larger sizes. Asking the store clerk for help with sizes is a good way to learn. Also mesure your chest, and waist so you can by bras, and jeans. Shoes can also be hard to find sizes that fit unless you have small feet. Mine are 12'' . Don't be afraid to do what you want to do. If your nervous about shopping for girls clothing, maybe bring a friend. I sure as heck don't regret going on this adventure so far, and I can't wait to see where I will end up. Good luck! Rochelle
Panties are hard to find that fit biological males due to not designed for external genitals of biological males, but tucking could fix that I guess. But it won't be comfortable though, I am going to try it should I get the material. The reason why I don't do it because my pants are flexible, and they hide the penis well even if erect. Also, I wear the panties with the penis and testicles exposed, but the buttocks closed, and I do this for all underwear. It's to keep the testicles from being to hot, and I don't cause anyone to notice even if I'm erect. But once I start getting girls skirts, I may have to tuck..
I have like 30 pairs of nice panties that fit me really well. The trick is finding larger sizes, as most stores mostly have medium or small sizes. The ones I'm wearing now are super comfy. I despise boxers, and I haven't worn male underwear in months. Bulging can be a an issue for some of my dresses, but that's a bridge I'll cross when I get to it. Tucking is only really necessary for being in public, but I would recommend not doing it wile at home for long periods of time, because if done improperly, it can cause harm or discomfort.
Do you only do the penis or both the penis and the testicles? If it involves my testicles I won't do it. However I may.
I don't personally have a gaff because I don't crossdress in public (yet). I put both my penis and testicles in my panties, otherwise it is kinda uncomfortable. There are videos on youtube of how to make a gaff. Idk if I want to make one yet.
