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Do You Feel Comfortable Holding the Hand of the Same Sex In Public Where You Live?

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by Foz, Jul 17, 2015.

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Do You Feel Comfortable Holding Hands in Public

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  2. No

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  1. guitar

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    Re: Do You Feel Comfortable Holding the Hand of the Same Sex In Public Where You Live

    You might get a few odd stares but I feel quite safe & secure showing PDA when I'm out.
     
    #21 guitar, Jul 17, 2015
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    Re: Do You Feel Comfortable Holding the Hand of the Same Sex In Public Where You Live

    Yeah, anyone that is uncomfortable because someone else is different can sod off, I don't want to know these people anyway!
     
    #22 alilnervous, Jul 17, 2015
  3. ModernCat

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    Re: Do You Feel Comfortable Holding the Hand of the Same Sex In Public Where You Live

    I live in a country where holdng hands between same sex friends is very common.
    If i had a girlfriend i would still be self conscious about holding hands in public. Because apparently people here can tell if it's friends holding hands or couples. They have a pretty good gaydar for straight people.

    Oh yeah. The country im in is homophobic, but slowly getting better.
     
    #23 ModernCat, Jul 17, 2015
  4. Gandee

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    Re: Do You Feel Comfortable Holding the Hand of the Same Sex In Public Where You Live

    Oh Foz, you probably offend people on a daily basis I'm sure something like holding hands would be totally fine XD

    It depends on the 'other guy', if he felt comfortable with some light PDA, I would do it. Then perhaps I would do a bit more, just to make sure the bystanders' jaws hit the floor, our jaws are not the only thing at risk here :wink:. Bonus points for being in front of friends and relatives. Extra bonus points in front of my parents.
     
    #24 Gandee, Jul 17, 2015
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    Re: Do You Feel Comfortable Holding the Hand of the Same Sex In Public Where You Live

    Back in my hometown I did. Here in Sacramento? Not really. Lot of racists and hicks near where we live. We'd be okay downtown or in the better parts of town but that's about it. We have a pretty big gay district downtown but it's mostly just bars- not really me and my boyfriend's scene.
     
    #25 thepandaboss, Jul 17, 2015
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    Re: Do You Feel Comfortable Holding the Hand of the Same Sex In Public Where You Live

    If I want to hold the hand of someone of the same sex, nobody will make me feel ashamed. So, yes.
     
    #26 MouseKeeper, Jul 17, 2015
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    Re: Do You Feel Comfortable Holding the Hand of the Same Sex In Public Where You Live

    I mean, I've never really held hands with anyone before but I imagined that if I did go out in public holding hands with someone I may be dating then there will be quite a lot of stares. Not like I'd do it anyway, holding someone's hands just feels weird and a lot of the times their hands are sweaty.
     
    #27 LesbianThrasher, Jul 17, 2015
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    Re: Do You Feel Comfortable Holding the Hand of the Same Sex In Public Where You Live

    My girlfriend and I have held hands in public in her home city and I don't mind at all. I feel kind of strange, because I'm used to being heavily closeted at home, but I like to.

    I would never hold hands in my home town, though. Not because I wouldn't feel safe--though that's a possibility--but because I come from a town where everyone knows everyone else and I'd be terrified that word would get around to my family.
     
    #28 Aspen, Jul 17, 2015
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    Re: Do You Feel Comfortable Holding the Hand of the Same Sex In Public Where You Live

    I'm pretty much on the same boat. I used to hold hands with my family a lot (as I'm sure most kids do), but I can't remember the last time I've done this with anyone recently.
     
    #29 CodeForLife, Jul 17, 2015
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    Re: Do You Feel Comfortable Holding the Hand of the Same Sex In Public Where You Live

    I feel like I would be very self conscious to hold hands with another guy in public (even though I would love to be able to #lonely). Somewhere a little quieter than the street maybe. But I feel like I would be constantly thinking other people are judging me.
     
    #30 Celatus, Jul 17, 2015
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    Re: Do You Feel Comfortable Holding the Hand of the Same Sex In Public Where You Live

    YEAH!! the heck I care with other people. :slight_smile: It's wonderful to hold the hands of someone whose dear to your heart. ^_^
     
    #31 JessRae, Jul 17, 2015
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    Re: Do You Feel Comfortable Holding the Hand of the Same Sex In Public Where You Live

    I can hold hands in public with my girlfriend and I get no stares. In fact when I do get someone noticing that we're a gay couple we tend to actually get an "Awweee!" smile. ^-^
     
    #32 Miko, Jul 17, 2015
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    Re: Do You Feel Comfortable Holding the Hand of the Same Sex In Public Where You Live

    It depends.....the city with the local mini gayborhood, yes. My city full of industrial workers? Not a chance.

    ---------- Post added 18th Jul 2015 at 02:59 AM ----------
    Thank you for the distinction. :slight_smile:
     
    #33 QueerTransEnby, Jul 17, 2015
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    Re: Do You Feel Comfortable Holding the Hand of the Same Sex In Public Where You Live

    No just in case someone from church sees me. I'm still intimated by them because I respect that they are above me
     
    #34 happydavid, Jul 18, 2015
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    Re: Do You Feel Comfortable Holding the Hand of the Same Sex In Public Where You Live

    From a biological standpoint? Hell no.

    I would love to say yes but, alas, I can't; I'm surrounded by way too much ignorance/hatred, and without any supportive people in my life at that. In fact, just the thought of such a thing makes me incredibly nervous/at unease.

    I envy those who can say yes without a second thought. :-l
     
    #35 C P, Jul 18, 2015
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    Re: Do You Feel Comfortable Holding the Hand of the Same Sex In Public Where You Live

    Depends on the part of the city. Right where I live? Sure. A few blocks down? No way, but just existing isn't safe feeling in such parts.
     
    #36 Thedistra, Jul 18, 2015
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    Re: Do You Feel Comfortable Holding the Hand of the Same Sex In Public Where You Live

    It depends on how crowdy and friendly it is. =) Holding my boyfriend's hand is amazing, but I know that some people can be very homophobic, even in this country. So out of fear, sometimes, we wouldn't hold hands. Quite sad actually if you think about it.
     
    #37 Quem, Jul 18, 2015
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    Re: Do You Feel Comfortable Holding the Hand of the Same Sex In Public Where You Live

    I do... either way pretty much everyone assume we are best friends.
     
    #38 MyLittleWorld, Jul 18, 2015
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    Re: Do You Feel Comfortable Holding the Hand of the Same Sex In Public Where You Live

    No, because Helena, Montana is a place where brutal, mouth-breathing, knuckle-dragging sexist motherfuckers live.
     
    #39 Pret Allez, Jul 18, 2015
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    Re: Do You Feel Comfortable Holding the Hand of the Same Sex In Public Where You Live

    I have never had the opportunity to do this, since I've never been in a relationship or even kissed someone, but I would feel fine doing it here. The Bay Area, especially this part of the Bay Area, is one of the most accepting places I know.
     
    #40 Wallace N, Jul 18, 2015
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