Talking to the same sex

When I have a crush on a girl, I get really nervous and have trouble talking to her, but when I like a guy, for some reason I don't get nervous at all.

 

I don't have too much of a hard time talking to girls I find attractive. Maybe it's because I'm a bit asexual. I also think I have no chance so I kind of relax.

 

You could act like you've known them for years; like they say, fake it until you make it.

I work with customers on a daily basis, so I'm always talking to new people, which has helped me become more comfortable with talking in general.

I speak to them like I would my family and friends, but I know seeing a hot guy/girl can you make turn into melted butter.

You could always give him a compliment on his clothes, shoes, hair etc. That's my method to break the ice, and trust me, it really does work.

 

I rarely talk to girls. All my friends are males I study engineering so I am the only female there. I honestly struggle to find a common topic when talking to a girl or they just seem to be bitchy

 

I've always been collected around people I like, despite being nervous and uncomfortable in social situations in general for a time. I guess I just have a good pokerface.

 

I am a train wreck when I talk to guys. I stutter and I get all nervous especially around my crush. Words barley come out of my mouth when I try to talk to guys. I am fine with my guys who are friends but the ones who I like or I think is hot I just fall to pieces basically.

 

and uh, i can easily talk to ladies i'm not attracted to be attractive ladies? i get all nervous and embarrassing ugh

 

I'm better at talking to girls, but it's getting to be less difficult talking to guys.

 

Lol, please. Talking to guys? Easy as pie.


Talking to guys I like?

I'd have an easier time riding a unicycle with one foot. :U

 

This is where I'm a bit different, I have absolutely no difficulty in talking to guys, I suppose it's because I've always been into masculine activities about 80% of my acquaintances have been guys.

 

I'm not a great conversationalist in general but it's even worse when it comes to guys and if it's a guy I'm crushing, forget about it!

 

Hey I am not kidding! Most of the time I hear girls talking behind each others backs or talking about cutting each others faces. Can't really look beyond that.

 

But one of the things I like about guys is that they are so easy to talk to. You really can't offend them, whether they are gay or straight, unless you do something to insult either their manhood, their honesty, or their capacity for being disgusting (especially the last). Say "I like stinky blue cheese, the funkier the better!" Just be yourself.

But here is some advice that I give constantly: get the other guy to talk. It doesn't matter what he is talking about. Just keep him talking. There is a reason I am saying this: the thing is, there is a region, on the human palate, that causes a release of oxytocin, a trust-inducing hormone, in the brain, when stimulated. The more a person talks, the more you are reinforced on that person.

But the highest compliment you can pay in return is to talk back. You can't just be Silent Sam.

Just give the other guy a chance to get you relaxed enough that you can talk back to him. Let him go, and if he hits a certain note that you feel like you are less nervous and more adventurous, he's probably doing a good job of talking his way into your pants, for better or for worse.

 

I find 10 times easier to talk to girls than guys. Because girls are more social, it just seems much easier to break the ice. But I've never been one to initiative conversation much. Now, if I am around a group of friends, I won't shut up.

 

It fells like I'm disarming a bomb

 

This is one thing I haven't ever agreed with, personally; I find girls are a heck of a lot easier to talk to, namely one reason being what biguy says about them tending to be more social.

One guy, maybe two? It'll take me a little bit to be comfortable, but I can adjust alright. A group of guys? F*ck no; I'm a good deal to extremely uncomfortable, unless I've known them for a trillion years.

I've had times where I'm out somewhere and a random group of girls talks to me and, after the initial awkwardness of anyone doing that, I'm all up in the convo.

...now a group of guys on the other hand? They don't even have to talk to me...all they have to do is sit somewhere in my line of sight, not even aware of my existence, and I'm about ready to dash away out of nervousness/discomfort.... >_> Bonus points for the fact that I work with a bunch of guys. -__-

 

Wait...now that I think about it, I feel quite comfortable talking with guys outside my nationality
I blame Vietnamese complex system of pronouns.

 

I'll answer this question in regards to women. As I've identified as cis for a large majority of my life.

Talking to women I've never been particularly good at it. At least when it comes to face-to-face. I'm actually fine when it comes to talking to them online, (whether I know them or not.) I've also been told by some women that if they weren't in relationships they would go for me.

Yet when it comes to physically talking/mingling I'm no good at it. Usually because I can't feign interest in what a lot of them enjoy talking about. My only good-to is to make them laugh, which usually works, thank god.

Talking with men is a lot easier. Even when I was cis, I think a large portion of the males I hung around with identified me as "one of them", which was great. I still had the assholes who saw me as a woman. But I got over it.

I can play mind-games, but I'd rather not have to. And a lot of women seem to like to play them for fun. Things should just be simple. XD

 

I've always had a harder time talking to girls, especially if I like them, but last few years it's gotten better for me.

I can talk to guys pretty easily. Even if I like them, though it is less easy in that case.