Hey everyone! So I'm eighteen and I'm recently started facing some questions that I have about my own sexuality. I think I'm gay...but I don't know! I need to know how I can really know if I'm gay or just "going through a phase". I've never dated anyone, I've never even had my first kiss so I have no experience like that to try to go off of. I've noticed girls for a while and for a long time I didn't think anything of it. I honestly thought it was normal, I didn't think I noticed them more than any other girl did. It wasn't long though until I did realize that did look at them differently. But I haven't thought about that in years! I haven't looked at a girl that way in a long time, but all of a sudden I've started to really notice them again. When I try to imagine myself kissing a guy, I just can't. But when I think about doing it with a girl I get butterflies and all that crap. Is it just some phase I'm going through and I just need to wait it out? When did you know you were gay and how?? How do I find out if I'm really gay?
Hey Isitreallytrue I went through the same situation six months ago, when I seriously started questioning my sexuality. I couldn't understand why, at the age of eighteen, I still felt extremely uncomfortable with the idea of having sex with a guy or dating one, and then, one day, the thought of me being a lesbian hit me like a truck. I realized I felt comfortable with the idea of dating a girl, which I never felt toward guys, and even though I had moments when I wasn't so sure about it, a part of me feels it's right. If you've always felt this way for girls and never for guys, I don't think it's a phase. But give yourself some time to explore your feelings
It's okay, I've never dated or kissed anyone either. Everything you explained is everything I feel too, and I'm 99% sure I'm a lesbian. I've been questioning for about a year now and seriously the best advice I can give you is time and thinking. I feel like the longer I am addressing this to myself, the more I am discovering who I really am. But at the same time try not to think too much (even though it's always on my mind I know how difficult it can be). I always think about how I can never see myself with a guy and if I married a guy I truly believe I would be unhappy. The thing I like to do sometimes before I sleep is imagine in my mind being a relationship with a guy, and then a girl. I do it every night to see if my perspectives ever change. They never do so that's how I know I'm probably gay. I hoped I helped you in some way, I wish you the best of luck my friend.
