Is snooping a deal breaker for you in a relationship?

If it goes too far, then yes.

 

If I didn't give them a reason to be suspicious, I would be a little annoyed and let them know how I felt. If they continued to do it without reason, that's a sign of missing trust it sounds like. My opinion is that trust is required in order to have a strong foundation in a relationship.

Trust but verify, as the saying goes. If you are required to verify too much, the trust is likely gone.

 

I would be mortified. I go on a lot of embarrassing websites. One of those is a fetish website. I don't have that fetish, I'm just super nerdy. That might confuse people looking though my web history.

 

My ex was suspicious I was snooping. Wasn't for the most part but only once when he came back all scratched up apparently from a fight and he wouldn't talk about it. it all went to hell from there.

 

Yes. I wouldn't mind it if she looked through stuff like my Facebook photos or the "about" tab on my page.

If she looks through passwords, private messages, web history and the like; that'd be the end of that.

 

If I caught someone looking through my phone, it would immediately sever all my trust with that person given my past experience with people looking at my phone. So yeah, I'd say that unless they were literally doing it to save someone's life, it'd be a deal-breaker.

I have an ex who refused to respect my privacy and did as much as she could to find out things about me that I explicitly told her I didn't want her to know, so privacy is kind of a big thing for me.

 

I wouldn't be mortified if a stranger read my text messages, emails, etc. I would care if someone felt that they needed to. So, it wouldn't be a privacy issue so much as an issue of them doubting my character and not wasting my time with paranoid people.

Side Note:

Maybe it is my fascination with the mind, but isn't reading up on that stuff so interesting? The things that people fixate on sexually are so diverse and amusing. Especially when you come across something that you can't even fathom and attempt to understand how someone even develops an interest in something that you could never. You're definitely not alone.

 

It depends to what extent, obviously I'd be a bit hurt that they felt they could ask me directly. But it all just depends.

 

I would not consider it a deal breaker but a large red flag.

 

Yes, it would be a no-warning breakup.

 

Depends. I have nothing to hide. If a partner went through my stuff and I hadn't given them any reason to not trust me, I'd be a little annoyed but it wouldn't be a big deal, as long as it was only every now and again. If they were going through my web history that would make me angry though. I search weird stuff, and it's not suss but it's embarrassing and I hate people looking through my history.

After several months of dating though I'd tell my partner they need to stop, unless I had given them a reason not to trust me, which is very unlikely. I'm kind of assuming here that the partner has be in a relationship where they've been lied to or cheated on and that's why trust is an issue. I'd try and help them through that, but eventually I'd have to tell them to just leave if they don't trust me, since I'm very trustworthy and loyal in a relationship.

 

It would annoy me that the person didn't have the level of trust I want in a relationship.

But at the same time I would not end the relationship straight out. Like they have a reason for doing it, even of its only in their head and they obviously care to be concerned.
So I guess after talking about it and proving they had nothing to worry about if they just continued even after I had given full disclosure then I'd seriously have to thhonk about it.

My ex did it to me all the time. Like she had all my passwords, it was a long perm thing and I had nothing to hide. But it just got stupid, like she's go crazy is she saw a girl wearing a short skirt on my news feed. And it was like she's a school friend I'm not gonna delete Facebook because she chooses to post a photo in a short skirt.
And if the guys asked my opinion on a girl they were seeing.. Jesus I was cheating in her mind for saying yeah ask her outam she's pretty.

 

Yes, very much so. I value my privacy and I don't really trust anyone to go through my things without my permission. I'm embarrassed by a lot of what I hide and if I knew they saw something then I don't even know how I'll move on knowing that they looked in my stuff.

 

The fetish site is based around a technical topic that I'm fascinated with. My obsession with that topic is about the same as the people that have a fetish. The only difference is that it's not a sexual thing for me. Some people could think I have a fetish based on how obsessed I am. It's nice to find people who are obsessed about a topic as much as I am. I've been mocked about that obsession for my whole life.

 

Hell yeah it is, I don't like people invading my privacy especially someone who is supposed to trust me.

 

I don't know. I mean I'd be really pissed off if they did not only because I don't want them to see my direct convos between people but also because that means they probably don't trust me.

 

Yes, I feel it shows a lack of trust. June

 

this thread broke my heart

 

It would confuse me because I don't think I do anything that isn't trustworthy. And some stuff I look up doesn't even apply to me or my preferences (such as straight relationships), but rather things that make me curious or research for writing my characters. I would just hate to have a partner take that the wrong way.