my life is just point less

Hi Yaoicore

if you have even one friend you regulary hang out with irl, you've got one more friend that I have. I haven't had a friend who calls me up to do stuff for a few years now. Quite socially isolated. I have learned how to nurture myself. Really. I counter the many negative thoughts that run through my mind every day, acting as my own 'advocate'. It can seem like a bit of a battle sometimes.

I wish it were not so but we all have days when we feel really rotten and simply must endure them. Then things get better again, and we feel happier. Eventually another bad day comes along, and we think it's all pointless...and so on it goes. An important part of life imo is to learn how to see the bigger picture when things are really bad - to see that the bad will not last, it never does. Eventually things will get better again.

This is a big site with a lot of members, and we don't normally ever get to actually meet each other here. But I do think there are many genuinely caring folks here. When I'm really down, I can get support from a whole bunch of folks here, some of them I know somewhat, some I don't know, but they all took the trouble to type up a supportive reply. That in itself is a form of caring, I think, even if it is coming from a relative 'stranger' it is real in that a physical person actually typed it.

Take your own side, so to speak. Fight the negative thoughts with positive ones. I have to do this every day, usually. Learn how to nurture yourself, so that whether you have friends or not, there can still be a bit of loving energy in your life every day, even if it's just telling yourself that really you're not that 'bad', that you are just as much in need of kindness as anyone else and that, when there seems to be noone else around to give it, learn how to give it to yourself. It's made me stronger, I think.

And having said that, yes strive to make your life into what you want it to be, yes. But along the way, learn how to feel the warm glow of kindness and compassion for yourself. This is not to be confused with self-pity (and I know all about that); pity focusses on how bad things are, whereas compassion is positive, aiming to relieve distress. It takes practice, but it's worth it.

I have not met you. I only just encountered your user name. But I know you are a human being in disress, I know I've felt that kind of distress often as well, and so even though we have never met I extend some loving-energy your way. May you be well. (*hug*)

 

Thank you for sharing more of your story.
You have nothing to be ashamed of. And there is nothing wrong with you. You are perfect the way you are. People can be mean, and they can say cruel or thoughtless words. That doesn't make them right. Why let the worst that people can do define who you are? You are stronger and more courageous than all of them.