Hi, before i start this, can i just say one thing, if u feel like i did this to myself, pls find a way to reverse it because who i really am is straight then. (no disrespect to lgbt i support u guys!) Hello, i am a 14 y/o male. Ever since young, i have been extremely extremely sexually and romantically attracted to girls, still am vvvvv horny about them. I mean since the age of 6 i rmb wanking off to the hi-5 blonde xD and looking af pics of hot ppl on the internet and wanking off. There was a time when i watched softcore and enjoyed it. I also developed many crushes on girls and fantasised about them. i used to wank a lot and ... STILL DO.I never ever felt anything related to attraction towards guys. So now everything begins :/ i have a faint memory last year. While i was jerking off to girls, i came across a pic of a guy thru my instagram feed. i got a lil turned on (only my dick, no sexual arousal) i thought of it was the guy looking vv feminine (he really reallt did, it was a close up of his face). I forgot about it and comtinued being the horny little bastard i was (to girls) hais, now it comes to a month ago. alright, as i was wanking thru my instagram feed, i came across the pic of a guy. i was like 'wow his hair is nice i bet the ladies would dig him' and comtinued wanking to girls and came to girls. so then , during my '2nd round', right before bed, i was wanking to girls again and maybe- out of boredom( cos i waa wanking to same girl throughout ) or horniness (cos broh i was wanking alr when i saw those pics) i started wanking on this guy. it felt good so i didnt think much of it and slept off. The next day however, my word. HOCD. for the next one month +. i started wanking to guys to 'test' and see my reaction. and started fantasining about guys to 'test' and see my reaction. I feel that all this indulging in homosexual thoughts 24/7 for slightly more than a month caused smth in e. i started ofc, to have homosexual thoights and i thought of guys differently, to the point that i thought i was confusing aesthetic and sexual attraction. like previously, when i used to see a hot guy, i would be like 'damn i wish i could have a body like that to attract the ladies' amd now im like 'HOLY SHIT OMG I FIND HIM ATTRACTIVE TIME TO WANK TO TEST IF I GET TURNED ON OMG'. the problem is this all a result of conditioning and overthinking? i overthought (is that a word xD) about this a lot. to the point where i , due to forced thinking about guys thru 'testing' , began feeling about them differently, like when i see an ncc platoon fall in before i would be like, 'damn those guys are fit, i wish i could be them' while now , with this newfound homophobc thoughts, i am 'thinking like a girl'. i have decided to completely stop testing as it wasnt good for me. as u can see this past one month was filled with paranaoia for me. what should i do? i feel sexually, emotionally and romantically attracted to girls, as in while i wanna do them, i wanna also cuddle, kiss their forehead etc. all of which i dont wanna do to guys. i am not emotionally or romantically attracted to guys in any ways and i dont think i am even sexually attracted i dont even know man. i have made a pact to myself to stop thinking about this untile August 11 (smth happens in my sch then) in hopes that all this homosexual thoughts will go away. pls help me. i am vv paranoid idk what is happening:bang::icon_sad:
Aaalright. Sit down, take a warm coffee or whatever makes you relax. I'm no expert on it. You could have noticed that I have my thread next to yours. It happens sometimes. Libido is a peculiar thing and does not aleays correspond to emotional responses. You may be also sexually attracted to a girl whom tou wouldnt like to date, right? The same goes here. If you were totally turned off by males as a rule, that kind of induction of behavioir wouldnt have an effect. Imagine anything others tell you that is cool and you may like it too. But you dont. Imagine the concept of "completely unattractive" and someone you associate most with it. I bet you wouldnt like to masturbate to a photo of that person. Besides you are in the age in which people can begin to have any purely sexual feelings. And your libido might be on the bi spectrum. So in conclusion, you didnt do it to yourself. You were capable of attraction to males and the possibility came true. No one can force you to feel one way or the other. And you cant also force yourself. You can only bury it or not use. I dont reccommend burying. Its a lot of pain. Plus a series of wierd-looking avoiding behaviour.
Hello!! first of all, its okay to have that i want to hump everything that moves attitude.. You just proved that you see more than gender and you see physicality. You can get off by seeing women and men... that is all. Your fears are understandable though, because i would be too!... a question for you would be... what arouses you more now? how about it real life? masturbation is just in the imagination and has nothing to do with real life. If in real life you honestly just prefer women. then dont worry about it. and if you also prefer men.. then dont worry about it either.(EASIER SAID THEN DONE) cause it scary as f. Limit the exploration, not because you made this to yourself but because your mental health needs it. Let things run their course.
Or, could it be that that night i was prpbably bored pf wanking off to the same old girls and same old scenario and that my hormones took over my brain? it was really late and i was rly tired amd i was alr horny when i saw those pics. secondly, im pretty sure whatever happened afterwards was due to comditoning and overthinking cos it nbr happemed before. the answer above u rly rly scared me oh and to ur question, ofc it is girls, irl i feel nth abt guys, but i do ant girls. idk man. how to emd thjs nightmare
It could just be that you were turned on. Some people can be turned on by anything under the right circumstances. BUT I will say this - When I was your age (maybe even younger) I used to masturbate to lesbian porn and girls in general. I never considered myself as anything other than straight because I kept telling myself that I was just going through a phase and it's normal for young teens to be turned on by anything and that it's fine because I would never be in a relationship with a girl. Now, I'm almost 17 and I've realised I'm gay as fuck. Not saying you're definitely bi, but maybe you should explore that part of yourself and see where it goes from there.
It is very understandable that youre scared. How to end it. Sexuality is a very peculiar thing as you see. It wont stop right away, but if you stop freaking out and stop being generally excited about homosexuality, in any sense: positive or negative, it will back out. Because you see, excitement of any kind is somehow bound to sexuality, so trying something new will give more arousal. Why? Idk. Probably its due to kinds of hormones that operate them. And dont worry about it too much. According to Kinsey, half of males have some homosexual experience that they didnt necessarily turn into gay relationships. Hormones take over your brain wuite often. Dobt worty about that either... *roll* And, ekhm, "man"? Me? (Not offended, just a reminder) Im just a female who happens to perceive sex like a man. It might have been due to the situation. It happens all the time. What about soldiers and prisoners and sailors who have sex with each other? It doesnt mean they fall in love with each other. Theyre horny Just. It is well possible to feeel attracted to someone only sexually but not romantically. Ithe two orientations of a person are not the same but they quite often overlap. I mean. View that as you wish. Epeople will write their opinins. If you want to end it, just stop freaking out. It may not vanish instantly. Maybe you have to get bored with this fantasy. Then, it will become clear if it is your orientation or a single fantasy. No one is forcing you to date guys if you dont want to, dont fo it. What you feel is normal, just many hide such feelings. Calm down Stop refraining yourself from that fantasy too. Get bored with it. IYou may also be like me As long as i have a sex drive, some part of people to whom im attracted sexually are women. Romantically not that much. What is so scary about that? ---------- Post added 4th Jul 2015 at 03:57 AM ---------- Everything will be fine
It makes me wonder: if youre so scared of being bi, why did you experiment at all? And what do you expect others to reply? No you did nithing wrong, you re just attracted to guys:bad. Yea you did means youre guilty, and developed it in an unhealthy way: bad too. Whats your purpose?
tbh, the only guy i can get off to (if i force myself) is the same guy i wanked to that night. the guy i saw last year and got a lil turned on is the same guy as well. i read that orgasms cause us to have more of what we wanked off to, is that why? or is this just a fetish
alright, is it just hormones and it will go away after some time? because if i really sit down and force myself to wank to guys to see my reaction i can (but then again i can for anything) is this conditioming causing my attraction? or what? is this bi curiousity just a phase caused by hormomal changes and an increase in estrogen?
guys im seriously paranoid and scared to the point of HOCD.. im not eating or anything and sleeping all day and skipping school.. i want to kill myself... can i have someone to talk to like im not a full member so can give me email address or phone number or smth plssss plsss
It's absolutely not something worth killing yourself over, buddy. You're 14 and your hormones are going crazy so there's a good chance that it could just be that you were turned on at the time. It could go away if you don't pursue it, but thinking about it all the time is not going to help. There's no magic cure to stop you from feeling the way you do, but just remember that being bi-curious is nothing to be afraid or ashamed of.
