Dealing with a Summer Separation

aww, I hope you'll be fine.

I think staying in touch, like calling at least once a week, maybe once a day, is the best way. Surprising her with a poem or so might also cuten things up.

Sexting, phone sex, skyping with video and so on... yeah...

Last day/night?
Romantic dinner, onto a nice walk, back into your room, cuddly-cuddly, rose petals, waxsticks, those tasters you apply which makes it nice and all, strap-on or other tools, anything to make it a little extra fun and romantic...

 

Staying connected when all you have is the cold, non-physical screen to connect through is tough.. Make sure you both go into this "summer separation" knowing what the agreed limits are while you are away from each other. 'Obvious' or 'implied' should not exist for you.

Try to find any way to connect and have fun. Apps, phone calls, writing letters, etc. Something fun could be sending each other love letters and/or care packages. Also, setting aside some time for each other every day will get you in the habit of not drifting apart. I guess the ultimate goal is to find any way to stay in each other's lives.

As for your last night together, well that has to be special. A quiet walk in the moonlight, drinks, dinner? I'm more of a traditional romantic so my ideas are pretty unoriginal, but anything that's gonna leave her longing for more during the summer will do the trick! (if you know what I mean.. :love

 

Letters sound like a good way to keep in touch with her, email could be good too.

Well, the obvious thing is just that you're spending time together, what you do is secondary.

For somewhat sexy: you could meet up somewhere for a while and talk, then go back to your place and give each other massages, and cuddle, and see if anything else develops from that. Then go out to dinner, and go walking afterwards for a while. Then drive, drive to the country and go swimming(or skinny-dipping) at a river/lake spot. Then just talk/cuddle/stargaze for a few hours.

For cheesy: go swimming in the ball pit at chucky cheese.

 

ehm I don't know if they're called tasters... the kind of things with flavor, like a kind of paste I think, that you apply around/on the special area... like blueberrry flavor or whatever...

 

Make 'a game' of it.

Get together and decide to plan 'half a day' with/for one another, and establish who will have the first part and who has the second. The goal should be to do something for/with one another, that you each like. For example, let us say you enjoyed seafood, ideally what your partner plans would include that. Same if your partner liked cuddling, ideally, you would incorporate that. Common sense, basically.

The objective here is to, while you prepare for that final day, you're left with an air of mystery and romantic suspense: OMG! What do they have planned? Is it this? This? Could it be that? Oh, or maybe that! Eeeeee~!

This ignites a spark, or should. When you two get together, go through your checklists, as silly or serious as that may be. Do things you like, things you know, and something new; just things to get the emotions and bond flowing. Maybe paint a picture together and "accidentally" get each other covered, something to associate touching/intimacy with your actions, which will ingrain the experience to memory. Hell, maybe paint on each other's bodies. Put little hearts or messages... gradually putting an end to paint and using your hands, but make sure it's safe. I wouldn't want you dying now!

There are hundreds of things to do.

Put things you've always wanted to talk about or do in a hat/container/whatever, and have her do the same, then the two of you take turns drawing from them. Discuss or do what is brought up. This way you can learn a little more about one another and, maybe, have a funny or loving time:

Give a body massage? Okay.
Perform a lapdance? Okay.
Lick your face? Okay.

Be as weird or sensual as you want. Hell, maybe put something along the lines of 'pose in lingerie'. You can be as traditional or liberating as you want, just have fun and, you know, love one another.

Invest in a scrapbook. So when the two of you are separated, you can put pictures of what you're doing, or what the other may like. Include little love notes and whatever else, maybe a nice feather or leaf, anything that has some sort of value. Tease or compare one another about your discoveries, and then combine the scrapbook together when you reunite. It's corny as all hell, but it should leave the two of you feeling appreciated and like your efforts paid off... I mean, why not? You've spent 2 1/2 months compiling this, so putting it together should feel like an accomplishment.

Have the scrapbook begin with an image of you two together, and end with an image of you two together. Everything in the middle is just how you two relate to and pine for one another. Yes, it's cheesy, but neither one of you can say you don't care about the other!

Consider make overs. It doesn't have to be something over the top, it could be something as simple as doing one another's hair. Be silly, be goofy, or show various styles to one another, just to see how it looks. Touching hair is a very intimate and enjoyable experience, well, for most. Maybe sneak a few sensual touches to the neck, too, for good measure. If you want, go get dolled up and put on a fashion show for one another, and embrace your inner fun.

I could go on and on, but surely there is something to be obtained from all or any of this. Just remember, the most important thing is being genuine about your feelings, and not being ashamed to revel or share them, no matter how juvenile the antics you get into may be. It doesn't matter, you only want to make each other feel good and to know they are cherished.

This is coming from somebody who is asked, even paid, to serve as an unofficial relationship guru for folks.

<3

 

Seconded on the recommendation to go stargazing! I love stargazing, especially on warm summer nights, and there's something that just feels calming and beautiful about sharing the stars with someone you love.

I don't have any good advice that anyone hasn't already said, but Skype was made for situations like yours. And I know it's a cliche, but absence really does make the heart grow fonder. Just remember she'll be thinking of you just as much as you're thinking of her. Your relationship will be stronger once the summer is over. Good luck, Lyana!