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Are you Dominant, Submissive, or in between?

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by Taly, May 31, 2015.

  1. Anthemic

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    I'm definitely submissive, in and out of bed.
     
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    I would like to be more dominant, but I usually prefer to be dominated, so that would make me the submissive one.
     
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    Oh, I'm basically a "soft power-bottom" if anything, meaning that I don't give commands but always seem to lead, whether I intend to or not. I'm very strict about always being bottom. I'm not interested in "topping." I don't want to. It's icky...for me, not for my dates. For my dates, it's awesome! I tried being genuinely "submissive," but my personality is way too charismatic. I talk too much. It doesn't work.
     
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    I can be both <3
     
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    I'm neither. More apathetic and fiercely independent than anything. If what someone else is doing doesn't concern me and isn't causing problems, then I won't bother with them. However, if they are trying to force me to do something I don't want to do, or manipulate me, you better believe I will become dominant and extremely stubborn. Generally I don't like following rules or taking orders unless I find them to be logical and reasonable so I guess that makes me dominant/passive.
     
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    I guess neither really...either in life or the bedroom. Although, I think I tend to be more dominating in bed. I have never bottomed, but that doesn't rule out being submissive. There certainly are times when I want to be the one petted and doted upon.

    I like equality in a relationship, and that means swapping out roles every now and again or dividing things up to achieve parity.
     
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    I see myself as being submissive :slight_smile: But that never came into play in the "relationships" I had, so it's hard to say for certain.
     
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    I like to imagine myself as being more dominant, though in real life I'd probably be more in between. I wish I were more dominant but I'm so shy and hesitant. :lol: In my first relationship I'll probably try to be more dominant and fail at it, haha. But yeah, I still like to imagine myself as dominant 90% of the time... Ah, if only...
     
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    Dominant probably to an unhealthy extent lol
     
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    Depends. I can have a dominant/domineering personality, but I'd like a romantic relationship to be built around egalitarianism.
     
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    I am more dominant-being the daddy, but will gladly play the submissive role .
     
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    Hmmmm... probably in between. I can be submissive or dominant. I think all together I learn more to a submissive side, however my mood changes and sometimes I feel more dominant ^_^
     
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    What comes to mind is definitely not appropiate for EC.

    Short answer... Got sharp claws, sharp teeth and I love to use both.
     
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    I'd say I lean more to the submissive side, since 80% of my fantasies are with dominant boys.
     
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    I'm mostly not very confrontational irl but if someone really gets in my face I will kick off :lol:

    In bed I'm probably better at being submissive even if I was top I wouldn't be dominant you know
     
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    Overall, I'd say that I'm submissive.
     
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    I am more dominant out of bed with most relationships or 50/50, but I am slightly more submissive in bed. In my last relationship, it felt odd being the top. It didn't do anything for me.
     
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    I don't enjoy BDSM. If I was involved, I'd be a dom, because the thought of humiliation and pain at the hands of another person repels me in the extreme.
    I may look more femme than butch, but I'm not passive in the sheets.
     
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    You know, I wasn't exactly thinking of BDSM when I posed this question.

    But the idea of being sub in BDSM doesn't seem so bad. Though, I'd probably have to build a good bit of trust, sense of safety, love, and a hella lot of attraction to do that. XDDDD