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I did it!

Discussion in 'LGBT Later in Life' started by bizzywizzy, May 23, 2015.

  1. bizzywizzy

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    I told my husband I am bisexual today! Sort of came out of nowhere!
    My god...could I have asked for a better response. He said he always knew I had a really open attitude and it doesn't surprise him but that it doesn't matter at all and he doesn't see me any differently. In fact....(and somewhat unsurprisingly) he is totally into it!
    And happy for me to sleep with a woman if I want to! Wow.
    What an amazing man!
     
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    Congratulations! Your husband is pretty cool.
     
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    Usually straight men are fine with bi women. Aslong as you arent completely lesbian :slight_smile:
     
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    question,
    what if he would have come to you first and said he had interest in sleeping with another man
     
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    Interestingly we have had a conversation about this. He did briefly experiment when he was young and ruled it out but he is a curious soul and said he wouldn't be totally against it. Maybe it is because I am bisexual but it wouldn't bother me really. We discussed this experimenting whilst you're young thing and lots of other stuff and neither of us feel threatened by the prospect. I don't actually plan on sleeping with another woman really it was more that I wanted him to know how I felt which was the most important thing
     
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    Hello bizzywizzy,
    I'm so happy for you! I'm so glad he responded in a positive way too! Are you more likely to act on your feelings towards women?
    My husband is fuming with me today as he got my iphone and saw some messages between a lesbian girlfriend and I. The messages were explicit but harmless as I don't fancy her and vice versa and she is in a serious relationship. We just feel comfortable to say things and joke with one another. Really bad start for my bank holiday weekend. I almost came out to him there and then as I was already so upset. I am not ready yet...
    But well done you! Do you feel lighter? Free?
     
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    That's amazing!

    Imlala, what did he think the messages were for/from if not from a romantic partner?
     
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    Hey bi2me,
    He was discussed by it all! I explained that it was in reference to a conversation I had with her about her partner. And that was the truth! I'm not attracted to this girl (maybe. Curious!) but I know she is faithful to her partner and nothing will happen between us. I feel totally at home in teasing her or flirting with her. Sometimes she plays along and sometimes she brings my husband into the conversation by saying 'yes, your husband would love that!'. And that is what happened yesterday! So, she is not the bad one...I am!
     
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    Congratulations on coming out to your husband! It's wonderful that it doesn't change anything for him, and that you can be open with him about it. :slight_smile:
     
  10. bizzywizzy

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    Thanks for your replies :slight_smile:
    Imlala....definitiely feel free! Just feel like a weight has been lifted and we can be open now.
    I am certainly curious to explore but at the moment I am just happy having said it out loud to him!
     
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    congrats to you and your hubby. i feel you are both quite courageous.

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