So, I'm a male, 26. I've always known since I was about 16-17 years old that I was attracted to men, as well as women. I always dated women, I have never dated a man, but I've always wanted to try.. When I was single I would "hook-up" with guys. I loved it and I am so turned on by men. I am currently engaged to a lovely woman, I love her. The sex was always good. For about a month maybe two, I haven't been wanting sex.. And I would turn to thoughts of men, sex with men, to get aroused for sex with her and sometimes to orgasm. now that the sex part is over, I also love to be around woman, gossip, and talk about their fashion needs and their lives.. I'm so confused!
Have you considered the possibility that you love to spend time with this woman platonically rather than romantically? What would you say are the differences between the way that you feel drawn to women and the way that you are drawn to men? Is one urge stronger than the other? How different are your thoughts/fantasies about men you fancy rather than women?
Yes that could be the case.. And one of my girlfriends has told me that is the biggest possibility. We have fun and enjoy each other but I'm slowly finding myself to want a man more. I feel like it is necessary to date a man, and all I crave is sexual things with men. I hardly think about sex with her lately
Then please dont take it too far with her. Being engaged with no plans to marry or to be together seriously will end up hurting her. You should get man for you
Even if I love her? I know there are different types of love.. I see a future with her, I just don't know if I'll constantly want to be with a man. And if my sex drive for her will ever be as strong as it once was..
Would breaking up and being friends be better than end up cheating or unhappy cuz u really want to try being with guy? ---------- Post added 21st May 2015 at 11:16 AM ---------- You can talk with her and be honest. She might give u change to try man and then decide if u want her or him. But thats rare.
I wouldn't mind being friends, but I know she is depending on a marriage and I'm not 100% about it now.. And breaking a heart hurts me :/ ---------- Post added 21st May 2015 at 03:20 PM ---------- Yeah I want to try that.. But she's a traditional gal. Like she knows I'm bi, but she doesn't know my current struggle., and that I'm thinking I'm gay
It will hurt more if u marry her with half assed reasons. Do u want to marry her? Be with her as long as you die? (thats said in terms of marriage). Are you ready to give up on ever trying man? And,do u think you will be happy with her. Forgetting men? ---------- Post added 21st May 2015 at 11:23 AM ---------- Another choice is that you marry her, find man when you two,already have kids. Leave her and kids ect. sorry for being so bold about it. But i,think you shouldnt marry her. Thats my opinion.
To be honest, I don't think I will be happy forgetting men.. And never having had the chance to be with one
I think you should be honest with her about your feelings and confusion. If you love her as much as you say, it's important to be open with her. It's not fair to her to stay with her because you don't want to break her heart. I think it will be much better to confront this now than years from now when you're both much more invested in a life together.
I know the feeling. I want to be with woman too.. Even once then not to be with anyone if i have no change. But atleast once..
It's not going to be an easy conversation to have, but it speaks to your character if you have it now, instead of years in the future. The best thing for everyone, is if you are honest to yourself and how you feel. Best of luck
Awww ❤️❤️ It's really hard for me cause I'm the image of "straight". Tattoos, gym rat and in the military.. But All the way!
Hi, am older and married but always had fantasies about guys ever since my teens and they have got stronger and stronger over the years. All I would say in my experience the true feelings and orientation doesn't go away its gets stronger, even if you try and ignore it. So if you are struggling with it then best to be honest now before marriage, kids etc..