Seems like a lot of the straights I know ((mostly straight men)) have trouble taking lesbian sex seriously. I mean they're all for watching it ((which is neither here and there)) and asking weird questions about it, but they don't seem to understand how any one can have sex without a (!) involved. And I dun no....something about it baffles me too. Like, I know how two girls would get it -on-, but even with a strap-on there seems to be something....off about it. Like I feel like it ain't my parts and something's missing and maybe she won't take me seriously. I don't know. Maybe I'm undergoing some kind of (!) envy. I feel like a tomboyish girl but sometimes I feel like it'd be easier to be a guy. I'm not having gender identity issues--at most I'm androgyne as I don't feel like a guy--but...sometimes I"d like to be a guy. I think if I were born a guy, I'd be straight and have no problem with it. It's funny but... I wouldn't even look at men if I had a (!) ::ahem:: down there. I'd just want women. Er. A woman. I don't think I"d play girls like that.
People have a hard time imagining sex without a penis penetrating anything, which is ridiculous. Women don't even get that much pleasure or orgasm from a penis, they get it from tongues and fingers.
There is a long ignorance story of treating lesbian sex like just innocent cuddling or some sort of masturbation. This is unfortunately still persistent in our society Just watch any standard porn flick. The same scenario repeats over an over. If you have a woman-on-woman scene it is almost always only a warm-up before the "real sex" scene when a guy with a mustache ( ) enters with his big dick. Sad.
I think maybe you feeling like something missing has to do with that shroud over two cis girls having sex which makes it out to be "not real". Sometimes I think it may be possible to get bored with using hands most the time, but then I remembered being with a dude and I was certainly sick of using dick all the time lol. Hands, mouths - they actually work. So I haven't gotten sick of it at all, and if I really wanted more options there's always toys which certainly work better than a penis lmao.
I don't know what porn everyone else is watching, but rarely does a man come into the middle of my woman-on-woman-loving, LOL. But yes, some folks believe penetration must take place. If that's what they believe, it's your choice if you want to be around somebody like that or not. Inform them and move on, and hopefully find somebody who is open to the interpretation of "real sex" which is, to me, good sex. If we both get our rocks off, then we've had "real sex", whether or not somebody got poked, LOL.
Not all straight guys are like that I imagine; but they are some damn bloody idiots from both genders in this world honestly.
banana envy ? There is nothing missing... honestly statistics are in advantage of lesbians... they are more likely to have orgasms... lots of foreplay, kissing and caressing, clit and gspot stimulation... I'd say do what comes naturally... and if you want you can include toys.. (I'd simply use good silicone or cover with a condom...) http://emptyclosets.com/forum/anony...ested-using-strap-would-you-use-her-5.html#92 hugs
I've only been challenged once by a straight guy, and I was just like "What you guys just orgasm once each? That's basically foreplay for a lesbian.."
I had a straight female friend who sometimes got into my nerves with regards to talking about sex. She thinks lesbians will become straight if they are penetrated by men and even had that subtle motives of convincing me to become one. I know I'm not a gold star but it really irritates me, my respect for her as being much older than me was the only thing that held me back from arguing with her. Sorry about the rant
Ewwwwwwwwwwww I would have told a girl like that that maybe she would become gay if she just tried it. Or maybe she likes being raped if it happened to her (cause that's what being with a man feels like to me)
LOL! I think I told her that but can't quite recall. She's a bit confused. She told me she had fantasies with young women and told me jokingly that she might wanna try it, but oftentimes would take back what she said.
We live in a society where what is considered sexual activity is what gives a male the most pleasure... It's a patriarchal society we live in friend. Honestly for me penetration is overrated because its mostly just pleasurable to the man. It feels OK but everyone's different and I prefer other sexual activities more.... Most women can't cum from penetration alone but oh wait I forgot its only sex if a man can get off LoL sorry for the rant
I don't think female sexuality itself is taken seriously. Until recently, people didn't think women were able to get any enjoyment out of sex, and some find it surprising that they do masturbate at all. Add the fact that women are more touchy feely with one another than men, and are seen as being more "prudish", and that plays into those myths. It's absurd. I'm not even comfortable with the idea of PIV sex, and catch a lot of crap for it.
You said you sometimes wonder how lesbian sex works also? Or did I misread? I assume you've never tried it? I am not saying you should try it. No on even has to have any sex if they don't want. Buuuuttt for anyone who wants to know how lesbian sex works, try it and you will know! It works quite well. The clit is an amazing thing. There are sooo many nerve endings in the clit. Rubbing your clit will give you an amazing orgasm. I love all types of sex. I am very sexual and orgasm easily and frequently with all kinds of sex. I love deep penetration, but I also love scissoring, fingering, oral. Penetration doesn't have to be ivolved for it to be totally amazing. Sometimes even my boyfriend and I have non penetrative sex (oral for both, fingering for me, hand jobs for him) And he LOVES it when he can get me off without penetrating me. It's probably an ego thing for him, idk lol but I love when he does things like that. Anyway, if you haven't tried lesbian sex, it's hard to know what it is like. But you have to take the words of others that it is real sex and also freaking amazing! lol. But people who say stuff like it's not real sex are usually uneducated about it....and it's just hard for them to imagine. But it does get annoying when people make a big deal out of it.
Different strokes for different folks. If you are sexually stimulating someone to or near orgasm, I believe you are having sex. Oral sex and masturbation are still sex. There are gay guys who don't go past manual, or oral stimulation. I would assume there are lesbians who only go a certain distance and aren't into penetrative sex.
The ignorance, it burns!!!!! People don't take female sexuality serious at all, and this is a Patriarchy, so the only way women can enjoy or have 'real' sex is with a penis. At least my son won't believe this crap!
People don't take it seriously is probably because they can not understand how the pleasure factor works, I have a work friend who is a lesbian and when some people found out and been told its fine to talk about it they went straight into this topic, some people got it and some didn't probably because they tried to relate it to their experience or thinking too deep into it. All I say is, if the person is fine talking about it then ask questions and be open minded but take their feelings into consideration before asking too much and if you do not understand still and let them know try your best to not make them feel out of place in your view and still like them for who they are and not what they do in their personal lives at home.
