The Problems of Being Nonbinary and Pansexual.

Hopefully, I'm not the only one who feels this way, as someone who's genderfluid and pansexual.

I think it's really awesome that I have to confidence to openly say at school that I'm not a girl, or a boy. And y'know, I like who I like, I chase the pretty ladies, the hot guys, and any attractive nonbinary people as well.
The problem is that a lot of people see I'm different, and veer away from me because of it. Straight girls think "they're technically (and biologically) a girl, so no", thought this one's understandable because of the biological part. Straight guys think "well they're technically a guy, so no."

As much as I love being free and not having to conform to a gender, it does get restrictive when it comes to dating. Anyone else share this problem?

 

I remember a couple years back I thought I was bi (well, I was pretty close, but whatever) and I came out to my boyfriend at the time and he was okay with it, so I guess sexual preference doesn't affect it all too much. Though when I started to question my gender, I did "crossdress" (I mean, I technically labeled myself as cis back then, if ya get me) when I was with him once, and he didn't really want me to cuddle up to him or anything unless I was girly. Bluh.

Though this year, I did date a girl for a bit who already knew I was genderfluid beforehand, so it was really nice to date someone who accepted me for who I was, rather than rejecting me for what I was. Though it was funny, because she didn't know whether to call me her boyfriend or girlfriend, and to be frank, I didn't know either! XD

---------- Post added 29th Apr 2015 at 06:03 PM ----------

Your girlfriend is an example of how pansexuals will forever make life easier-- //HIT XD

In all seriousness though, I have gotten those problems. There was this guy I liked earlier this year, and I was really scared to cut my hair short (since it used to be one of those awkward shoulder length haircuts (or at least it was awkward on me)) because I always thought he'd never want to date me at all since I technically am part guy. On the bright side, he's basically my best friend now, and he accepts me just as I am!

It's always great to find a nice pan guy or girl, since they really try to look at the person's character, rather than genitals, or gender label. That's actually why I identify as genderfluid and pansexual; to try to be seen for my characteristics, not for "the girl that has boy hair" or "the boy with boobs".

Shit, that just got deep. ^^;