Hey guys, So me and my girlfriend of a year broke up because she was at a time in her life where she was ready for commitment. I'd had doubts about my sexuality for a little while so wasn't sure and we decided we wanted/needed different things so went our own ways. After i'd stopped feeling sorry for myself i got back into online dating and hooked up with a couple of women, nothing too serious. I was getting round to talking to and possibly meeting up with guys. About a month after we broke up we decided to meet up to see how we were both doing and ended up very nearly having sex had we not held back. Since seeing her again i've never felt so strongly about somebody. The thought of kissing and holding her is etched into my brain and i have this chesty emotional feeling when i think about not being able to hold her. I've had myself convinced i like only men and then only women several times a week and am just not sure what i want. Gay porn does more for me but i couldn't imagine kissing a guy or things i'd do with girls. I know i might likely be bisexual but i've had a lot of people tell me guys are one way or the other which confuses me more. I really want to go out and buy an engagement ring for my ex but i'd regret it so much if i'd made a big mistake and didn't experiment. Shall i give the whole thing more time and try dating guys and see if i still feel the same when we meet? Or should i just follow my heart right now? Thanks for any advice
I think you should safely explore your attractions to guys however you see fit. For me, it was meeting up with someone in person and having sex with him. Even after that we kept in contact for a bit and that's when I started having feelings for him, which confirmed my attractions to guys. Not saying the same could happen for you, but had I not experimented I would not have known.
You probably should wait some time, in my opinion. Enough time to see if you really love her or if its just a deep infatuation/lust thing. And be able to let your sexuality make sense to you. With your girlfriend it could sound like a demisexual thing, but not at the same time if you're willing to experiment easily. Besides, if you're more comfortable with not putting a label on it, you don't need to. In my own opinion, you could be bisexual (Men can be bisexual, whoever said that is wrong) and you might have a sexual preference for men. Maybe the reason you're like that with her is just because you have a bond. Like the other person said, just do what makes sense to you. And if you don't know what makes sense, then just make sure you're happy with what you decide to do.
Definitely should experiment before making such s commitment. I know from experience because going thru the process of ending a ltr and a lot has to do with me trying to come to terms with who am I. Now its a matter of damage control as she wants to hold on and I feel like I would rather die than go back in my little closet. I've not even been with a guy but I've had these feelings since I was a kid.
All kids mess around. How old were you when you first experienced as a kid? And how long have you been with her? I see you have three girls. Do they know about this? If so, how do they feel about it? I haven't had any experience myself but I have these fantasies and dreams as well as attraction to men. Sounds like you are in a tough spot. I wish you well.
