how do i tell my family about being gender fluid? i have what i want to say all planned out but i never can get the words out of my mouth even if it feels like the right moment do you guys have any advice?
you could write a letter and then read it to them, it's a way you can prepare yourself way better and prevent saying stupid things
Plan a lavish musical number! They're going to freak out, but at least they'll like the song? I'll even provide the lyrics: Look at my tan and tinted skin Look at the muscled shape I'm Look at my manly, manly chin Oh please, I can't be a female But then again, I'm sensitive And absolutely transitive And maybe you, my relative, Can say "not male"! I am not male! That is the elephant in the room. Well is it relevant to assume That I who often wears perfume Am almost most certainly male or female? But look at my coiffed and crispy locks. Look at my silk translucent socks. There's the eternal paradox. Look what you're seeing. What are you seeing? I'M NOT MALE AND NOT FEMALE I'M GENDERQUEER!
If you tell your parents you are "genderfluid", they probably are not going to have any idea about what you telling them. They will probably think you are either "confused" or gay. My advice would be to get some literature explaining sexuality to parents (PFLAG?) ready to educate them about what you mean, and prepare to explain where you fit into those descriptions of sexuality, so they have some hope of understanding what you are trying to tell them when you do. The idea of feeling like a boy some days and a girl others is a sure trigger to them thinking you are "confused", and who knows what their specific response to that might be. Or yours.
