Hello I'm trying this for the first time today and I'm a little nervous. I'm not sure what to say or what to do I just really need some advice. I'm a 37yo female who is questioning my sexuality. I feel like it's so late in my life to be having this issue so I'm not sure if it's just a phase or the real thing. I have been straight my whole life but have always felt attracted to women but never really acted on it. I got married to a wonderful man a couple of months ago and almost immediately after I returned from my honeymoon I ended up having an affair with a woman. I don't know what to do, I'm not sure how or why it happened but it did and it has changed me. But I'm not sure if I'm lesbian, bisexual, curious or what. I just know I'm different now and I don't know what to do.
Hello and welcome to EC. For sure You will find a lot of support or similar stories here. I think on the "LGBT later in life" forum thread there's people sharing their experiences about discovering different orientation being already married. I hope we will all help you to sort things out. Best of luck!
Hi Lostpassion37! Welcome to EC. You definitely came to the right place. There are a lot of us in the same boat. I understand how you feel. Its confusing and frustrating. My husband doesn't know, as a matter of, no one knows. I don't know anyone that I can share this struggle with. I feel very much alone. Just trying to figure it all out... If you ever want to chat let me know.
Thanks so much everyone. Maria1679 I would love to chat but I am new to this whole thing so you may have to guide me a little lol
I'm tired of not having anybody to talk to about the way I feel. The stress of it all is killing me! On top of it being such a confusing time in my life, the person I had my experience with works with me and it has become a huge scandal on my job and I still have to see her everyday. She is only 23 and I have found out VERY immature and the whole thing is just a big mess. Even worse I can't stop thinking about her. I still love her and still want to be with her even though I really think the whole thing was just a game to her. But my whole life has changed and I feel like I don't know who I am anymore.
Hello there! First off, welcome to the forum. I'm sorry you're having a hard time right now- feel free to browse or make a thread in one of the Support sections, I'm sure you'll find some helpful advice there. I'm a member of Staff here at EC, so I thought I'd quickly explain how members communicate directly on this forum- just in case you're new to this sort of set up. Most members communicate by leaving messages for each other on their "walls"- just click on the Username of the member you want to message, select view public profile, and you will see a text box on the front page of their profile. Write in there and press post. You'll receive a "notification" (look in the top left of your screen, near where it says "Welcome, Lostpassion37") when someone replies to your wall. Click on that (or simply click your own Username) to read it, and reply. The easiest way to do that is click the "view conversation" button which will appear under the new message. It's easier than it sounds! However, remember not to give away any outside contact details, such as email addresses, Facebook details etc as these messages are not private, and that would be a breach of the rules. I hope this helps!
