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I'm out to my parents

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  1. Pine

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    They didn't kick me out. But they're not happy. They found some art. It was tasteful, but it was men.
     
    #1 Pine, Feb 25, 2015
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    Hoping and praying for the best for you.

    Please hang in there.

    (*hug*)
     
    #2 SonicBoom, Feb 25, 2015
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    Thank you, I'm going to need it (*hug*)
     
    #3 Pine, Feb 25, 2015
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    The best thing now to do is now is to keep your cool and ride this storm out.

    Give yourself and your parents some space to come to terms with this new reality.

    Talk about "it" only when your parents ask you about "it". Other than that, don't talk about it.

    (*hug*)
     
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    Ok, thanks. I did manage to avoid a fight by leaving, we're not really talking right now.
     
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    Do EVERYTHING possible to try and deescalate the situation.

    Maintain your cool at all times.

    Don't say or do anything that you will regret later.

    When things get heated........leave the situation; peacefully.

    Best of luck.

    (*hug*)

    ---------- Post added 25th Feb 2015 at 03:32 PM ----------

    Even if you left the situation with your parents, still maintain contact with them and let them know you are safe.

    ---------- Post added 25th Feb 2015 at 03:33 PM ----------

    The only thing that will help this situation is time.

    In the meantime , Pine, be cool.
     
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    Ok, thanks. I don't have much to say right now. I'm kind of numb
     
    #7 Pine, Feb 25, 2015
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    Your situation brings me right back to time when I was 15 and got outed.

    I have knots in my stomach now just thinking about what I went through and what you will have to go through.

    Praying for you Pine.

    (*hug*)
     
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    Pine, if you would like to and if you think it may help you, make forum post or blog post about your journey with your parents.

    If you want comments or suggestions post in the forum.

    If you don't want comments or suggestions post it in your blog.




    Whatever you do decide to do , time is only thing that will help this situation.

    (*hug*)
     
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    Ok, thanks. I may talk later. I don't feel much right now. I don't really want to think about it as much as possible.
     
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    One day at a time.

    Easy does it.

    This too shall pass.

    (*hug*)
     
    #11 SonicBoom, Feb 25, 2015
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    You are one brave soul, and at least it's done now.
     
    #12 memyselfandhim, Feb 25, 2015
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    My previous message disappeared so I'll say it again.

    Congratulations. This is one small step for man, one giant leap for Pine! :slight_smile:
     
    #13 pinkpanther, Feb 25, 2015
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    I feel for you hun. I will sit here hoping that things get better for you.

    My parents finding out that way is one of my worst fears, but, unfortunatly in my case, they're not usually the most tasteful! XD (I'm not trying to make light of your situation, just hoping to make you feel better by letting you know I'm in a similar boat as you).

    Love you dearie, stay strong!
     
    #14 CapQuestionmark, Feb 25, 2015
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    I am praying for you! I hope everything goes well!
     
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    No, I think it's going to be okay. My parents got me a gay mentor counselor. I just talked to him today over the phone.
     
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    Sounds good.

    Hoping for and praying for the best for you.

    Keep us posted.

    (*hug*)
     
    #17 SonicBoom, Feb 25, 2015
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    They said they kind of thought I might have been. I think they're disappointed. IDK we're not talking about it
     
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    Pine, I think your parents are in shock but they are loving and caring parents.(!)

    Just give the situation time.

    (*hug*)
     
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    Hi there! I agree with SonicBoom that your parents still love you. It's okay if you are not talking about it at the moment. Give them the time to come out too by accepting your sexual orientation, and be able to talk about it.

    From the sounds of it, things will be okay. (*hug*)
     
    #20 Mirko, Feb 25, 2015
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