I vote none. Aint no shame in being who I am. How about you folks? If you do have shame over being LGBT, how has that shame expressed itself in your life?
Some, unfortunately. I'm almost a bit embarrassed of not being straight. And of all the things that could make me feel like less of a man, I hate that this is one of them. I hope I don't always feel like this, though.
I used to have so much that it'd affect me in every accpect of life. But now it doesn't affect me as much.
I felt ashamed before i knew that there was a possibility to be non binary.i always felt somewhere in between and thought i was a freak.i was extremely relieved when i found out that there were other people who felt the same way and thus the shame vanished:starwars:
I'm ashamed that so much sexiness is in the wrong body! I work with what I've got, but damn, it's hard sometimes.
haha, same to me I don't feel shame about being gay or who I am but I find it awkward when someone figure out what happen:icon_redf
Some. I worry a lot about what it may do to my family, and I feel some guilt for that. There is the potential for a rift there. I also felt shame for looking at people who may not have the capacity to "appreciate" me back, but I've managed to rationalize that people do this all the time, straight or gay. I think I do still feel some shame and embarrassment for having to be different.
I used to have a lot of shame about being gay when I was a teenager. Mostly because I grew up in conservative rural America where being anything other than straight is seen as a mortal sin. It got better as time went on and I started going to college. I met a lot of open minded people who are more accepting than the people I grew up being around. I still have a little shame today as I have some very conservative family members that I know won't accept my sexuality. I feel bad because I love these people and don't want them to hate me for not being what they want me to be. Fortunately I moved away from the country and into a more accepting area. I'm hoping that things get even better from here on out.
Shame about my bisexuality? Almost nothing. Shame about being a trans guy? A lot. I have internalised transphobia. I feel like a freak and I truly wish I was never born. That line of thinking doesn't do anyone any favours. So I don't focus on it. It might be easier if I wasn't such a physical person. Besides every day I live might just be causing pain to some bigots.
The only one I have to blame for me feeling shame is myself. I have to reassure myself a lot that what I want isn't bad or wrong—it's okay if you want to present yourself differently and wear different clothes, your friends and family really are okay with you, it's okay if you'd much rather be someone's girlfriend than their boyfriend. I've been really lucky about the people I've come out to. More and more it's made me aware of just how nonchalant they are about the whole thing. And if not nonchalant, then at least willing to hear me out and talk about anything. I'm still working hard to fight myself feeling ashamed, though. I'm glad I have their help. And your help!
At first realising, I didn't have som much shame as I had anxiety and fear. However, I am now at a point in my life where I am proud to be able to be and express myself honestly and not deny or hide any part of myself and am thus, totally unashamed of being LGBT. Happy days
