How much do/did you blame yourself for being LGBT?

I blamed myself at first. Growing up in a very homophobic environment, it was only too easy to fall into self-hatred and loathing. I just thought it'd be so much easier on everyone (but me) if I was straight.

Thankfully I don't feel that way any more. Being gay was never something I could've changed and I think I'm at least a little bit happier with who I am now.

 

Blaming yourself for being LGBT is like blaming yourself for being black. You might think you have something to do with it, but deep down you're still black.

 

Thank you for that video clip!!!!

 

I don't think I ever blamed myself. It was more about hating that I am gay. I don't hate it anymore though. I'm gay and I'm freaking proud.

 

A little at first, when I looked back to the past and summed up all the things that could've led up to it. I never played with others whenever my mom tried bringing me to the playground, I either played by myself or stayed with her. I liked when I saw my classmates naked in the locker when our PE class took place at the pool. I always just hung around a wall thinking about stuff instead of running around like everyone else... so when it all hit me, I thought I was a real weirdo.

 

I have always blamed myself. I hate it. I wish I was straight. I have bouts of this.... denial and anger, this is one of them, but all in all, I dislike it.

 

I had no idea what was going on with me. It felt like hell.

Both gender and orientation were "wrong"... And my enviroment was extremely LGBT-unfriendly : Not much religion, but your average "this people is so sick/disgusting/deranged" and so on...

Now I'm fine... More or less. Still fighting the aftershocks I guess...
There is no turning back anyways, so I have to deal with it.
Don't think it's my fault at all nowadays.

 

I blamed myself a lot.

I knew that I'd be a disgrace to both my parents and my homeland,
and I've always wondered if I was the only one like this.
But I'm alright now.

I can't say that I'm still blaming myself to the point of self harm anymore,
but I can't say that I'm proud to be attracted to the same sex, either.

 

I don't think I've really given thought to blaming myself(directly), but I do wonder occasionally if there was something I did to end up this way/could've done to avoid it.

It's that and I pretty much fit the textbook definition of 'not bonding with the right parent', though that obviously wasn't my fault, so there is a little mixture of blame going through my mind.

I haven't really dwelled on any of it though. It's more confusion about the matter that pops up on the occasion I feel down about it, because (now at least) I know I probably didn't do anything.

 

Maybe earlier, but now, it's just doesn't make sense, how is it my fault that I like women.

 

I don't think I've ever blamed myself for being gay.

 

Intellectually I don't blame myself, I know you're born this way or you aren't. But emotionally I have thoughts like, "why do you always have to be so weird and different?" "what's wrong with you?" or "If I tried harder, maybe I could be straight." None of these thoughts make sense, and I know that. It's just convincing my emotional self of this, as well.

 

Never. I accepted myself as gay when I truly knew i was gay.

 

never blamed myself for being who I am .

 

Like most people here, I never blamed myself. I felt shame and that I was wrong and disgusting for it, but I never blamed myself because I knew it was out of my control.

 

This...

 

I ask myself "Why?" Often, and no answer!

 

Everyone is so brave here :0 Does the surroundings affect our thoughts tho ? Because in my place people don't accept them. So i often feel guilty about myself. I like the positivity hahah u people have hahah.

 

i did blame myself a lot. always thinking what did i do to deserve this, why me, etc... I dont anymore though. i know that this is who i am, and i wouldnt be me without this attraction... that was a dark place in my mind for someone so young, but i persevered, and got through it, and now i couldnt be happier. well, i could, but that is beyond my control, so at the moment, i couldnt be happier