So this week my sisters and I had a long-overdue triplet meeting in which we shared secrets and I finally (FINALLY) came out to them. I think it's the most surreal thing that's ever happened to me. I've been trying to keep this a secret for so long, and they were so shocked to find out. They were awesome, though, and really understanding. I just keep having these moments where it hits me that they know and it's the weirdest feeling. I feel really exposed and vulnerable. Has anyone ever experienced feelings similar? I feel so disoriented
Yes, I know what this feels like. It's a huge shock when you first time come out someone after hiding for years and years. It's hard to get used to being out even if people are supportive. I felt the exact same way! You will get used to it with time. PS. Who are the girls in your avatar??
thanks it's nice knowing i'm not the only one my avatar picture is Emily Fitch and Naomi Campbell from Skins (UK) seasons 3 and 4. they're the best onscreen couple ever!
Hi there! Congratulations on coming out, and it's wonderful that it went so well! The feeling that you experienced and/or are still experiencing is pretty common. At some level there is a surprise that it actually happened, that the words rolled off your lips, and that within a couple of seconds you took down a large part of the protective wall that you built around yourself. In coming out, you are making yourself vulnerable, you are walking on uncharted territory. You are letting go of you inner defense mechanisms and essentially are saying - what happens, happens. There were one or two coming outs where I thought, 'did this actually just happen?' and I started feeling unsure about things, for a few minutes, while realising that I had talked about myself not only in a coffee shop with others potentially listening on the conversation, but that I said the words without giving too much thought to them while saying them (if that makes sense). The good news is that the feelings will pass, and that being out (and having come out in the first place) won't feel surreal after a while.
