I don't know if you've ever played it, but in the video game The Last of Us, one of the characters was gay and I never realized it. I had to play it a second time and only then I noticed all the gay porn magazines in his safe house. Not to mention he kept mentioning his "partner"
Mine fluctuates. I can usually tell a little more easily when I see two people together or not, like you can tell if they're attracted to each other before they show any affection or mention any pet names or anything. Like there's a difference between seeing two girls together who are just friends hanging out and if they're a couple, from the second you see them. Again, even if they aren't being obviously affectionate. The sad part about that, of course, is that it means they're taken.
I have an amazing gaydar! There was this one kid at my old school who said he was gay and nobody thought he was but I knew
I have crap gaydar, but so does my friends and family. I didn't know my first girlfriend was gay until she told me that she liked me. And only my youngest sister knows that I'm bi and that's because she overheard me talking to my best friend.
*raises hand* Me, me! My gaydar is so terrible it's a running joke with my friend. I just cannot tell. Sometimes I wonder a bit, but I never have the feeling they're not straight. I don't get it.
My mind is quick to call everything it sees gay. It's a matter of common courtesy for me to stay silent.
I'm usually better with my gaydar when it comes to men. (The exception being a male friend that I had huge crush on.) Not so much with women, though. I've had Girls to flirt/like me and it would completely fly over my head! I had a friend, that I suspect, "loved" me very much and it didn't occur to me until I was 18. :bang: For Christ's Sake! She once sent me a cellular Valentine's Day Card, telling me how much she loved me and it flew over my flipping head!!!! :bang: She would always sing "I Kissed a Girl" when she was with me. I didn't get it! :bang: There were many other things she did that I was too stupid to pick up on. I had a acquaintance who was openly bi, and she was so mean to me and touchy feeling. A year later, an acquaintance of ours told me that she liked me. I had no idea. :bang: Oh, and I thought that my ex-therapist was a lesbian. (She gave a off a gay vibe) I asked her and it turned out she was straight and married to a man. :eek:
I forgot which gay Youtuber said this but it's my mantra: THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS A GAYDAR, ONLY A "STEREOTYPEDAR" (ok maybe some people really do have a gaydar and mine is broken.)
My friend has great gaydar without stereotyping. She's all "I see the way they behave and how comfortable they are with both the same sex blah blah" and it makes no sense. People with good gaydar scare me. Like they know I'm queer before I tell them. :icon_redf
I have a pretty great gaydar. I can usually tell if someone is at least a little queer, if not super queer.