Are most gay men tops or bottoms?

If you insist, I am content with categorising you as a gay bottom from now on.

 

Mostly versatile. It seems though that people tend to lean toward bottom if anything though.

 

Vers ftw! I think that I don't meet the typical gay stereotype. I think you need to just keep looking around for your ideal guy and try to not rely that much on dating sites.

 

I don't know why but it seems to me that you wouldn't even accept if your guy was versatile but not needing both. If you can discuss it, lay all your cards on the table and come to a mutual decision, does it matter that maybe before you he had taken it from someone?

But vers here personally. I find it a good thing because you can give what you get exactly. But if I had to be top or bottom exclusively, it wouldn't matter to me either.

 

I don't know exactly, I think both are equal and bot and top can be changed between two but for me, I always want to be the protected one, like a "girl" in the relationship, and want my guy to treat me super nice, he must be the one that chases after me. But I'm just only 15 and a virgin, fantasizing seems great but i never find any one near my place that attracts me much. Many of 'em are in the closet ( My country is not really homophobic but they seem not to know anything about sexuality :v they seem to know guys would date girls only :-( )

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To be honest, I prefer to be bottom

 

Most I've met are versatile with a preference. I've met more exclusive bottoms than tops, but it's not like exclusive tops are unicorns either. You can be gay & only want to top.

I know quite a few bottoms who prefer "straight" guys and don't find it attractive if they like bottoming as well, so you're not alone in that line of thinking.

 

I think the majority of gay men fall into the versatile category, but may have a moderate - strong preference. Sometimes the preference is so strong that they become an exclusive bottom or top by default. I'd certainly caution people against the assuming those with a preference lean towards bottoming though.

 

Most of them are bottoms.

 

Just to let you know, guys like what you want do exist. Hello, meet me. Where I'm nit opposed to bottoming I prefer top. I'm a masculine guy. So yeah we are out there is just that you have to look.

 

I wish.

I tend to run into more tops.

 

I need to move to the OC then.

 

But it's true there more bottoms than tops, overall I don't know.
Every single gay men I have met is obsessed with being treated like a protected girl, in bed too. Nothing against just saying.

 

It's funny when you run into stereotypes like, "many drag queens are tops," and, "the bigger and more masculine they appear, the more of a nelly bottom they are in the bedroom."

Just goes to show you that people can be contradictory in their natures. :lol:

 

:icon_wink They are both a minority though. Bottoms > Tops from my experience.

 

Love the person for who they are... I've heard so many different definitions and cliches about what "top," "bottom," "twink" and a whole lot of other labels. That tops are always this way, to bottoms that way, or whatever. YMMV

I'm always the protective one in a relationship, yet I long to give myself over to someone I love and have them take control (and conversely loose control.) And that doesn't have anything to do with what particular position I play on the team.