What if you found out your partner was Asexual and may not want sex?

And that's what I did.

No need for a condescending lecture, although I know you often can't help yourself in that regard.

 

Compromise would be key if I were to have a relationship with an asexual person. I wouldn't could take out dating an asexual in the future either, and I definitely wouldn't dump them if they said they were asexual. Sex isn't necessary in a healthy relationship for most people, love and communication play a far more important role.

 

If I really liked that person, ofcourse I wouldn't leave that person just because she is not intereted in sex. I would try to have a talk and figure everything out. Everyone is different. I would try to understand what she wants, and then decide how to make this work.

I understand it's a problem for asexual people, most think that if they will come out as asexual to their partners, they will be dumped... and living in a sexual society, for people it can be hard to understand... because all they care is their own needs and wishes.

 

I would be disappointed but I wouldn't leave. Though I think that sexuality is something that should be known before a relationship

 

The simple answer is No.

The long answer is that I am a growing girl and my female sex drive would drive me nuts if that person says he/she is bisexual. I d be like ... Kissing is allow right? Cuz without any romanticism then it is not a relationship; it is nothing more than a visit to a temple up in the Himalayas.

Cold from sheer lack of romantics
- E

 

Um, absolutely no one here is telling you to do that.

 

If I had a partner that came out to me as asexual I would respond with "Awesome, now lets go get some pizza!"

In all honesty as an ACE im not put off by sex. I just dont see it as a need in my life. I could have sex with someone but Id just be laying there like "Are you almost finished? Ive got shit to do!"

 

That probably wouldn't work for me. I'm a pretty sexual person. Sure, maybe, an "open relationship" would be an option, but that doesn't sound appealing to me. It would feel fake. It would be like someone telling me they don't like being close--they don't want kissing or cuddling or hugging. I couldn't do that either. That would actually be more off-putting than "no sex".

 

I guess I found myself in such a relationship a while ago. It silently killed me because I have some needs but did not want to offend by requesting it. So I walked out.

 

I think I would be fine in a sexless relationship. The emotional side is more important to me.

 

So what? If I care about them, I'll at least give it a shot. And not all asexuals are celibate, so there's always that. But honestly, I wouldn't mind at all

 

No, duh no one has asked me to do that. I was speaking on if the situation arose for me. Had you read my entire post, which by your sly ass remark, I'm sure you didn't.

Thanks for your input, though.

 

"Sly ass" remark?

I think you're misinterpreting my intention and tone as much as I apparently misinterpreted yours.

 

Good compatible sex ensures a solid emotional bond unless both parties don't care!

 

Nope, couldn't do it. Experiencing LBD in my first relationship was bad enough.

 

I'm a virgin, but I have many sexual thoughts and feelings myself. If I really loved them, I might try to stay for a little longer. But I wouldn't guarantee it would work for me.

 

To be perfectly honest, I'd be relieved. I think they'd know by then that I have trouble giving/receiving romantic affection, much less a sexual relationship.

 

I guess it could work for a while... But i would feel like the relationship was lacking something. I do have needs that have to be taken care of sometimes and it wouldn't feel right for me to find someone else to help with those needs while dating someone. So no i don't think it could work out for very long