Gay guy with a girlfriend

I would say no, in my opinion because you didn't know he was in a relationship with a girl

 

He's the one who's in the wrong, not you

 

Not your fault.
Don't feel guilty.

And it's up to you now whether you see him again or not.

 

You didnt know he was in a relationship. He is in the relationship not you. Domt answer the phone number. It could be him calling you from a different number or it could be a creditor or telemarketer. Who knows. But cut it off with him. He is a cheater and even if he dumps his girlfriend for you , you could be cheated on next.

 

whilst I think it's understandable to feel guilty, I don't think it's correct. you didn't know he was in a relationship. even so, to feel guilty would be assuming that the relationship is monogamous. if it is, it was his responsibility to respect those boundaries not you. and he didn't make you aware he was in a relationship. I don't see the importance of his partner being female, he may not only be attracted to males, physically or emotionally.

 

What a TOOL! You are not in the wrong here HE is! Argh WHY is he in a relationship with a girl if hes not into her? No offense but gay guys who use women as their beards just come across as pathetic and weak to me. He needs to grow up. Tell him to tell his girlfriend and if he refuses you should consider telling her yourself without making her think you knew he was in a relationship with her. Because you didnt. Tell her the truth.

He's the one in the wrong trust me!

 

You are all blind. He does not have a girlfriend. Facebook information is mostly shaped to build the popularity. Call that number and see yourself.

 

deffo not your fault, he should of been honest and he wasnt.
dont feel bad, its his fault, not yours at all.
i wouldnt answer the number incase it is his gf and then you get inbetween some breakup thing and it gets messy. ignore the number and ignore him if you see him out again, he should of been honest to you. deffo not your fault.

 

Do not ignore the call. Think rationally. Remember, that most relationships end on an impulse. And you are bringing an end to this. You arr mistaken. He has no girlfriend.

 

While I wouldn't be so sure he has no girlfriend, it is worth considering the possibility. I would say talk to him, confront him about it and see what he says. Maybe contact the girl too and ask her.

He might be cheating, he might not.

If he is, I will say what everyone else is saying. You are guilty of nothing.

 

Thus do not ignore the call. That would show you the truth. Stop being passive.

 

But still at the same time , if he is in a relationship with a girl for 5 years and it would be on facebook and he didnt inform of wether there's any break up or anything let alone coming out as gay at a bar to hook up with men we wont really know the story of his , So what i suggest is that you do talk to him and I understand how you would feel guilty so why not approach the apparent girlfriend and ask her the question whether they are still is a relationship or somethin

 

Yeah, that's what I meant.

 

Don't feel guilty, and don't feel like you have a responsibility to do anything, it is his mess and he will end up having to sort it out for himself.

 

Answer. The. Call.

It is too simple to panic and run away. You might lose your very own mate.

 

My first thought was you should stay away from him- he cheated on the gf and may have led you on about his intentions. However, other posters have made a good point- the FB relationship post may be a cover. I'd ask him about it. If you don't want to call him send a FB message. Did you check the gfs FB to see if it says she's in a relationship with him? Are there any pictures posted that confirm the relationship? As to the phone call try a reverse number lookup site. There are also sites that list "junk call" numbers so you can see if it's a telemarketer. If it was the gf, she'd likely have left you a nasty voice Mail.

If he DOES have a gf, he's the one in the wrong. You didn't know he was cheating.

 

If I was you I would corner him. And tell the poor girl the truth. She doesn't deserve to be used as a beard. He's a pathetic slob. Argh I hate cheaters.

 

Exactly... he can't go on living his life this way, hurting girls and guys, just to have his cake and eat it. You have a moral obligation, but of course, it's still your life and your choice, so we can't force you.

No good can come out of being involved with someone closeted and partnered.