I can't stop thinking about him...

I would talk with him to make sure you two are on the same page where your relationship is. Are you seeing him for dates frequently, occasionally?

If your level of involvement isn't being reciprocated, you should maybe slow down a bit.

I finally had enough of my bae being a yo-yo in his interactions with me, and had to friend-zone him. My hope and heart kept yo-yoing up and down with his mood, and how he was communicating/behaving. Sometimes cold, sometimes warm, a few times very romantic. And then back again. I'm not ready for a relationship like that, and we've set boundaries to keep us platonic, and friends. We still care deeply about each other, but not feeling like my feelings were being reciprocated consistently was driving me crazy.

We both need time to figure ourselves out before we get into a deep, emotional and physical relationship. I'm fine with that, it was the uncertainty that was upsetting my balance, "damaging my calm."

 

If you overdo it, you'll risk pushing him away, even if he cares about you. I wouldn't read too much into his lack of a reply to your message wishing him a goodnight. It can get tiring to send e.g. goodnight messages just for the sake of doing so (not that there's anything wrong with your message, I only mean it in the long run, especially if you expect a reply every time). Try to be more relaxed.

You can decide to confront him about things, but that would risk causing a reaction from him that might not be positive.

 

I'm the same way about sex and love. So far, the 2 hookups I had were fun, but meaningless (other than for discovery.)