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Small Victories

Discussion in 'Gender Identity and Expression' started by Kasey, Dec 11, 2014.

  1. Kasey

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    I recently started to talk to someone from EC well... it was complicated... back on FF14. It was complicated but we are friends again. I know those feels.

    You describe a past student of mine who came home from college out of state just to see me the day I came in as a woman the first time. She's probably been my biggest supporter in terms of being thrilled about me.
     
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    At home, I sang two choir songs as a tenor. I reached all the notes and sounded like a young guy. For the first time in my life, I sang with my heart.
    My soul was coming out through my body, it wasn't closed inside a mannequin.
    Years of training gave their result.
    I can't describe how it feels.

    [[ B-) and it's only training. While I'm physically soprano. ]]

    THAT is singing. Otherwise, it's just moving the air inside my damned throat.
     
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    So I just figured out my soon-to-be college roommate is a transgender guy. Aweeeessssoooommmmeee.
     
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    This isn't exactly a small victory, but after a couple months of emails, phone calls and being patient, I finally start seeing a therapist May 31st (pending transportation and payment arrangements)!

    I was so happy hearing that on the phone I damn near started crying lol
     
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    woke up from a dream this morning, I was female bodied, had a guy snuggleing into my back, mmm such a nice way to wake up im counting that as a victory since I usually wake up disappointed that I still have this body and this morning I felt sooo good, even with how I look. (male)
     
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    Crisalide, you're so lucky to be able to sing as your gender. My vocal range is somewhere between bari and bass, so I can hardly sing alto even using falsetto.

    On a more positive note, I have finally come out to one of my closest friends, and it went really, REALLY well. I honestly could not have hoped for a better reaction from him.
     
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    There is so much positivity on this thread! I love it!

    My victory was actually a few days ago, but I was able to hang out with my boyfriend and he helped me consider (and mostly decide on) a new name. He also agreed to start using masculine pronouns between the two of us (so not with his family or mine, b/c I'm still really unsure and not out yet) but it was really awesome to be called "he" and "boyfriend" by one of the people I'm closest to in day to day life.
     
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    had a fantastic session with my gender therapist this morning talked about transitioning, asking a cute guy out, what to do about a medical challenge im facing and how it will effect my transition.

    then i went to look at a house to purchase. the house wont do, but it's only the first i've looked at so far.
     
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    Finally got my birth certificate that says Patrick Alan ____ on it. Took about two weeks from requesting it. I'll go get my ID and social security card changed next week and then I will have no choice but to tell my boss.
     
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    I said it I prefer to excersice with men :slight_smile: I said it.
     
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    My mom actually called me Romeo yesterday.
     
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    cool man.
     
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    This thread always makes me smile. There are so many wonderful people here with happy stories that I can forget my troubles and be happy for/with you all. *tears of joy*
     
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    Started my blog and made my first post, a short story. Hope this goes well.
     
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    went for a walk downtown today like this as a girl
     

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    My stepsister called me 'him' for first time.
     
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    congrats, how do/did you feel?

    lovely pic BTW
     
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    Idk if i count consider i'm not trans, i'm not even sure what i am yet. Hence 'genderqueer' instead of something more specific like 'bigender' or 'agender' or 'genderfluid'. I'm not labelling it officially until i can look at myself in the mirror and not feel repulsed. I've always hated my name and looking at myself in the mirror. Like ugh that's me that can't possibly be me. I can post here, right...?

    Anyways, I bought my first boy's outfit today. Just a plain black t-shirt and a grey chambray button up. Apparently i'm a size 14/16 boys. How am i supposed to put together a decent outfit if i have to shop in the boys section when i want a boy outfit?

    I still think its weird that a fucking shirt of all things made me feel that happy, but it made my day. I spent all day looking forward to trying the two shirts on together at home with the khaki knee-length shorts i already own. Not from the boys section, women's i think but they fit like what i would want out of boys jeans for the most part - pocket room, not too baggy or too skinny, etc. AND I FOUND MY FUCKING BEANIE.
     
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    I count that as a victory. The title of the thread is SMALL Victories after all. I wish I had the guts to buy a skirt or dress.
     
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    Thanks. Yeah it was so nerve wracking! I felt like everybody was watching me even though the store was really slow, barely anybody there. Going up to the fitting room to try the clothes on, i was scared. I work there. I've seen these people 5 days a week for 4 years, i so i was really invested in not fucking up the shopping trip. It was so worth it looking in the mirror with the clothes on though.