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Small Victories

Discussion in 'Gender Identity and Expression' started by Kasey, Dec 11, 2014.

  1. Rowe

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    Today, my family went to Savers (which is a store that sells clothes that were donated because we're poor). I was feeling dysphoric, and I followed my mom and sister over to Madrag (a women's clothing store), because I would either be happy being there, or sad that I can't get anything there. I ended up being sad, but then snapped at my sister and said I wanted to get something there.

    Long story short, I got 6 pieces of female clothing. Four shirts, a flannel, and an amazing jacket (that's a little too short, but so comfortable).

    I was so happy, and really excited to wear that tomorrow.
     
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    Good for you! Though I must admit I feel guilty for even needing the binder...
     
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    I have a few.

    My fiancee went to see her mom and stepdad who is disabled from a motorcycle accident a few years ago. He was in a coma for two months. His memory has been pretty bad and he is hard to understand and he is in a wheelchair. Small victory for him, he can walk a bit with assistance now and his cognition is apparently improving. Small victory for me, she said he asked about me using my chosen name without being reminded.

    Also, my fiancee has commented that my face is changing, particularly that my cheeks are "melting away", which is great because my cheeks were my least favorite part of my face.

    Finally, I just went to the gas station to get beer and peanuts, and the cashier, an older guy, greeted me by saying "How's it going, man?" And didn't correct himself or apologize even after I showed him my id. He did ask me what my name was after he saw it though, so maybe he was confused lol. No one has ever asked me my name after I showed them my ID before. And by the way, my legal name is one of those names that technically Could Be unisex but hasn't been used on a man in like 20 years, at least not in America. But still he didn't correct himself or make it weird other than that.
     
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    Thanks you too! I get what you mean, I also feel guilty. Normally I'd rather not get other people to buy things for me, but right now the need for a binder is a big one. I'm hoping to return the money to my friend out of my own pocket.
     
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    I'm wearing my "boyish" clothes again. The ones I took off about two years ago because I thought I had to in order to find a boyfriend. And I feel great. At the same time I am looking forward so much to wearing the dress I bought last summer. And I love that I was brave enough to get my ears pierced. I feel like I'm moving forward and am finally getting comfortable with being neither a man nor a woman.
     
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    Haha snap - I've just had the same thing happen too! (Although sadly not GC2B)... But yes, my NB friend ordered an Underworks binder for me so my parents wouldn't find out on my bank statements :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes: I've worn it for three days now and it's super comfy, which I totally wasn't expecting :slight_smile: The moment you first put it on is so overwhelming but awesome!
     
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    I went to my call with my hair partially spiked (it wasn't very high), I was going to wash it out of my hair before I went but forgot, and I'm glad I did forget.
     
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    Overcame one of my managers being a poop. She kept correcting a client every time he said "she" while referring to me, and kept giving out my dead name. Client got confused, approached me later and apologized saying that he was more used to my name being traditionally male(guess he didn't completely pay attention to my manager correcting with "he" every 5 seconds), but that he would try to remember to use it. Told him it's getting changed and he responded with "Oh! That makes a lot more sense! I'll call you that now ok??"
     
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    It's nice that the client checked with you rather than just revert to what your manager was calling you. That made me smile.

    ---------- Post added 15th Nov 2016 at 01:58 AM ----------

    I can't keep hearing my birth name but I get that I haven't come out fully yet. I'm just happy that it's going to happen at some point soon and my new name is hella cool.
     
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    Wow, looks like this quite common haha. I bet it feels awesome putting it on for the first time, I'm looking forward to that moment the most.

    By the way how are you finding Underworks?
     
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    One of my teachers said she liked my eyeliner
     
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    I felt almost "normal" yesterday. Dysphoria was almost non-existent, and I was kinda okay. Today's a bit different, but I'll count the fact that I can occasionally have days like yesterday as a victory.
     
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    Going out of the house to pick up my pills. It's something.
     
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    so..... i went to the Trans support group tonight, it's about 100kms away so i dont get in as often as i'd like. i count that as a victory in and of itself. :icon_bigg

    but my big one is that i used my real name. usually i'd use my birth name and say he or she pronouns, but tonight i used my real name, Sarah. and she/her pronouns please. that was hugh for me.
     
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    Sarah is a nice name. I'd have used it, except for one huge barrier....it's my sister's name! :lol:

    Plus, I love Brooke. It's the best. Victory, I've referring to myself as Brooke even out loud! And it's almost natural at this point.
     
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    thanks, I've always liked the name and when I went searching for my name in a meditation session, it just came to me; 'hi my name is Sarah'.... it felt right.
     
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    Brooke and Sarah are both cute/beautiful names!

    As for me, I tested my vocal range for the first time since starting T and I have gained a lower note and lost an upper note. Went from E3-C6 to D3-B5. Still pretty high though lol.
     
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    thank you Patrick
     
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    Awww thanks Patrick!

    And good luck with the voice. I really wish hrt would lower our voices, but alas...
     
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    yes Good Luck Patrick.

    hehe, if my voice gets any lower i'll be speaking from the bottom of my heels.:grin: