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Small Victories

Discussion in 'Gender Identity and Expression' started by Kasey, Dec 11, 2014.

  1. Rickystarr

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    My sister also apparently has me in her phone as Patrick, though she has rarely actually called me that. But I have recently had a discussion with her about it when she came with me to my appointment at planned parenthood for bloodwork for starting T.

    And I keep having pleasant dreams, either about looking more male or starting hormones. I recently had a dream that I had my hormones tested and my estrogen levels were startingly low, and my dream self was like "Yes! I knew it!". I don't know if any of this actually means anything more than that I've been thinking about this stuff way too much so it's bleeding over into my dreams, but it feels validating. That is because in my waking life I doubt a lot, but when I dream about being a man or furthering my transition, it is always positive. And lately I've been dreaming about it almost every night.

    Also, I just had a conversation with my fiancee in which she pointed out that since I've come out as trans I've seemed more confident, masculine, and I stand up straighter, speak with more certainty, and make more eye contact. None of this has been conscious on my part, though I do recall trying not to appear overly masculine before because I was very afraid of seeming to be "trying to be a man", and now that I am out to pretty much everyone, I am just not concerned about my expression at all anymore. I'm just like "Yeah, so I am a dude. Fuck you." and I am much more myself lately.
     
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    Victory!!

    I had a heart to heart with my son on the way home last night when I picked him up from University. we talked about me transitioning or not (see my last post here) and he told me that he would feel so much worst if he stood in the way of me becoming my authentic self and I pressed him if that's how he really feels and he was adamant that he was supportive and that he would adjust to the changes of father/son. I told him that I will still be the same person just in a different shell (Body). I felt soo great that we went out to dinner to celebrate, just a local chicken place but hey.
     
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    Despite having a terrible cold, I just got a wave of excitement at the prospect of having a beard.
     
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    Today I went to the center of the city to do some office procedures (search the marriage certificate of my brother and her wife cause he's in other province)... Anyway I wore a bra today, and I didn't felt many of the anxiety I always had appearently with no reaseon.
     
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    I looked into some size conversion charts for clothes, and think I might have my women's size nailed down.
     
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    i had a dream last night, im not sure what it was about but I felt really good when I woke up.

    and, maybe because I felt so good, I decided to dress a bit differently today. at the risk of TMI, I underdressed at work today for the first time ever and I feel soooo natural about it.
     
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    Leg hair is all gone. Stupid little thing, but it makes me feel better.
     
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    :icon_bigg
     
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    feels awesome doesn't it? warning, hair may feel wrong or awkward after....
     
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    Lil girl said I had a "man voice" at my martial arts class yesterday. #yesssss
     
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    Oh, my brother is so cool about me being trans. He's super interested in seeing how I change during my transition. He wants me to do a time lapse of pictures, which is a great idea.
     
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    Two sirs today, zero corrections, and zero ma'ams. Maybe my fiancee is right and my body language has changed a lot.
     
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    Ha. Yeah I'm prepared for that. I've done this before, but now thanks to nair I may actually keep it up a while. Even if I am a guy after all, the comfort factor is huge, I love feeling the fabric of my pants. Though I think I know why girls are always cold now.....:lol:



    One thing I've decided, if I come out of the questioning phase a woman, I'm doing something to document my transition. Maybe I'll start a YouTube channel, that I way I can get a handle on things like how my voice changes, as well as the things I'd be changing on my own(demeanor, mannerisms, etc.).

    I love the idea of photos as well though, definitely do that!
     
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    I was just at Red Robin and the waiter kept calling me "bud". I don't know why it made me so happy :')
     
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    In a way, I kind of said my name is Maddie in real life for the first time yesterday. It was to my sister's friend, coincidentally also named Maddie (but short for something different). We passed each other in the hall, she said "It's Jake!" and I said back "It's Maddie!".
     
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    I'm wearing female clothes ^_^
    They feel good, and when I bought them everything went smooth :slight_smile:
     
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    People mostly call me sir....until they face me from the front. But in some of my clothes I can can disguise my give away attributes. The other day I was wearing THOSE clothes and a child asked me if I was a boy or a girl...I said I was a dude...the kid accepted it...
    love
     
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    My French teavher asked me if I preferred Ollie or was Olivia okay, I told her I preferred Ollie and it made me feel really good.
     
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    It's the best feeling when I get called the proper pronouns when I went shopping with my sister walking into a shop and hearing can I help you miss and hearing my mom and sister talking about me and using her and she it really helps with my self confidence
     
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    Could mean nothing, but I referred to myself as "Savannah"(that's the name I kinda picked out) in my head automatically a couple times today.