Small Victories

Not-so-small victory here... wanted to share an email I received from my sister. I had a long talk with her today, eventually coming out as trans, on the phone and then sent her the letter I've been working on that I'll be sending to extended family & friends. Here is her reply:
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My dearest Emma,
You are the bravest person I know! I think your letter is beautiful and perfect! It is, at the same time, heartbreaking and courageous. I wish I'd known all these years. I wish I could have helped you. But what matters now is that I know and I can support you and your family.

[Oldest sister], mom, dad and I have wondered why you seemed distant and why it seemed hard to connect with you. It all makes sense now. I had actually planned to talk to you soon to see if you were upset with us or if [wife] had a problem with us. I'm so happy that you called me today. As soon as you said you had something to tell me, I knew what it was. I support you 100% and am here for you always! I'm so grateful that you chose to reveal your true self instead of turning to suicide.

[Middle Sister]

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this hit me right in the heart. so happy for you.(*hug*)

 

After reading through everyone's posts here I feel like an utter douche bag for getting angry or annoyed if I ever got "sir'd". I now have a new perspective. Some people are wishing for it while others are dreading it. I honestly wish our language didn't have pronouns.

 

Some times it hurts, some times it don't... it depends on the situation and the person saying it. but well unfortunately we do have pronouns and we have to deal with it..
Dont call yourself a douche bag, we are all beatifull people and you have all the right to be angry when you get mispronounced or misgendered

 

I adopted a cat that needed a place to live and I think that's something to feel good about

I also started seeing a new therapist who has experience with trans people. None of my previous therapists or psychiatrists have had any so I'm hopeful!

 

Don't feel bad; you being called "sir" is exactly the same as you being called "ma'am" if you were a transman.

 

Large Victory

Came out to my mom as gender questioning today. She was totally supportive and already figured so anyways. She asked questions about my plans, what my preferences are, what she can do to help. She wants to get educated about the FtM process and I couldn't be happier.

Happy danceee!!! (!)

 

Small victory here!

My parents, though they don't know I'm transgender yet, have let me grow out my hair. Now I can appear more feminine earlier!

 

Shaved my face for the first time today which is a big step for me because one of the things I was bullied for when I was younger was the amount of facial hair I had for a 'girl'. I don't care anymore. I want to see stubble so that's what's going to happen.

Note: Shaving your face is difficult.

 

Second that... still have to do it every day i i really hate it... can't wait till i have enough maney saved to have it removed permanently... but in the case of a trans male it is really neat, and you'll get used to the shaving after a while

 

I love this thread! You all make my heart swell! Sending you all big hugs! Happy Friday, everyone!

 

After a lot of awkwardly standing in between the women's and men's sections and pretending to look at women's clothing while longingly looking at the men's section, I bought men's clothing for the first time today!

 

Kind of a moderately big victory - after about half a year of angsting over being 'stuck with' my given name because I couldn't find anything that worked, I found one (Leo) and have been tentatively trialling it for over a month and I'm finally confident enough to start thinking about bringing it up outside my close friend group!

I've not felt so good in ages.

 

Leo! What a great name! Very handsome name!