Finally accepted that I'm gay.

It is very liberating!
So far for me positive with everyone I've told.
The hardest person for me was my wife.
Now we are best friends.
Good luck!
Stay strong!

 

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I definitely get that. You have to do what is right for you. Continue to post on EC and we will continue to support.

 

:eusa_clap I'm proud of u (*hug*)

 

Congrats~! ^.^

 

Nice move with your sister!! Well done.

Don't be down about not being able to go back in the closet… I am sure you have only told people you can trust and they will keep your private matters private.

 

Congratulations, AGAIN!!!! :eusa_clap That is such fantastic news! It sounds like it's getting easier for you. How do you feel about your sister's advice that you not tell your parents? Is that because of what you said about them being super religious, and how the family has reacted to some things in the past?

 

that would clinch it for me as well. there is nothing to be gained, and an education and all that represents to be lost. I would absolutely hold out for graduation.
and as for family, I strongly believe that biology often doesn't determine our real family. Our family are those people who love us, and support us, and stick by us through thick and thin. When that happens to be a blood relative, like your sister, that is great. but we need a much broader understanding of family. there is a pretty well understood concept of the gay family, and it really sustains a lot of people in their lives. our families of origin can sometimes be more destructive than nourishing. not that there aren't things to be grateful for, but if we acknowledge the whole story it can be very healthy. (&&&)

 

Congrats on coming out to your former coworker and your sister! I can completely understand the desire and need to protect your future and education. I also get wanting to control the speed of the process. I would suggest finding a few other friends that you feel you can come out to, and trust them to not tell everyone. You may even be able to start dating and having your date with you in social situations at school. Just keep your school / social life separated from your family life at least until you finish school.

I dated a closeted bi guy through the last two years of university and after that. He never has told his parents, but most of our friends figured it out. It was the open secret with our friends. That kept up for another 4 years after he graduated. Some of those same friends are still amongst my closest.

Sounds like you're doing great!

 

Is there an LGBT center at your college? or a gay straight alliance? those are good places to meet gay guys. You'll probably figure out who the gay guys are, but if you're having trouble with it you could just wear a rainbow wrist band, or something like that, and they will find you!

 

Nice way of avoiding answering about "anything new" in your life.

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Is your dad a pious person in the closet?

Yeah, it would be wise not to come out to your parents, whilst you are financially reliant on them.

 

another option is to contact the LGBT center and ask them if they have any off-campus events that you could attend. talk to someone on the phone, which is pretty anonymous, and you can probably tell them your situation. you can also use email; but if you're concerned about anonymity, you would have to use a different email account than your regular account. I am sure that you are not the first student to be in your situation, and I am also sure that they will want to help! Good luck, and HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!!!!

 

Sigh

im 40 and still haven't come out to any of my straight friends. I managed to tell gay friends and they are really cool.

 

That's a good first step. You can achieve anything but it's a good idea to go at your own pace

 

did the tarot cards announce that you're gay? (this is a serious question)