Hello, EC community! I'm Margherita and I'm from Italy. I've been identifying as "straight but curious" for sometime now. Though in the past few years, I've only had encounters with men, lately I've been feeling more attracted to women. However, while trying to have a conversation about this with some of my peers, I received these types of responses: 1) Apparently, I'm "too pretty to be a lesbian" 2) On the other hand, I'm not masculine enough to be a lesbian ... ... Well, apart from the fact that I am not a lesbian, you may well imagine how much this conversation left me upset. Basically, it looks like in people's mind, women attracted to women must either resamble actresses from p*rn movies, or look like men. I discovered this place while looking for a community where to freely talk about one's sexuality without having to necessarily justfy every single word that comes from my mouth, or be careful not to offend anybody just because I feel attracted to women though I do not fall into neither of the stereotypes they have in mind. I honestly was naive enough to think that nowadays people should be way more open-minded than this, but I was clearly wrong. I originally am from an extremely conservative town, so I should have probably expected the reaction I in fact got, but I thought moving away from there meant I would never have to deal with this kind of "stupidity" again. I have to thank the fact that I got to move to California when I was 16, where I met amazing people who allowed me to question my sexuality without living it as a trauma I apologize for any mistakes in my presentation, as you understood English is not my first language, and I haven't practiced in a while. Look forward to meeting all of you Ciao!
Ciao Margherita! I don't know if it actually counts coming from me, since I've been a member for the last 24 hours, but I know everyone here is gonna be super sweet and supportive to you! You're definitely going to have a great time on EC! Have a pleasant evening!
Its called femme invisibility... you're not the only one (*hug*) I'd say take it easy... just remain being who you are Have you thought of rainbow wear to just attract some like minded people ? Your english is good Hello and welcome Take part... ask questions... people like to help (&&&)
I have to admit, not really. Call me stupid, but the thought my friends could have such opinions never crossed my mind - probably because I had never actively discussed the topic up to a couple of days ago. But I did find a bar which organizes LGBT nights in the new city I just moved to, I could probably start hanging out there Thank you for the advice, anyway And thank you everybody else for the warm welcome
Ciao from the UK Margherita! A shame that your peers have such stereotypical views on lesbians, but if you're from a conservative area like you said then that's kind of understandable, since their impressions would be from tv or whatever rather than real life. From one newbie to another, welcome to EC! :eusa_danc
So sorry for disappearing! I want to thank you all again for the very nice welcome, it's heart warming
