I've been reflecting on this, for the past two days. I find it important, to keep tabs on my negative aspects, or else, they'll force their way, into being tolerated. I had a problem, years ago, with just accepting anything about me, when I should have enhanced the positive, remedied the negative. Sometimes, I still struggle with this, because a lot of my more positive traits... Confidence Perseverance Charisma ... can easily become my more negative traits... Arrogance Preservation Manipulative I can be rather persistent, too, almost annoyingly so. I like to solve problems, and as quickly as possible. If I see a solution, then I am going for it. Sometimes, this trait, while well intended, can come off as intrusive, even inconsiderate. I try my best, not to do that anymore, but it can be difficult. I find a comfort in acknowledging my flaws and weaknesses, because in doing so, instead of hiding from them, or denying them, I am better able to tend to/prepare myself. I know how to deal with my flaws/weaknesses, being targeted or exploited, ahead of time, instead of allowing somebody else to do this first, on their terms. That said, what would you say, is your worst trait?
I'm torn between arrogance and snobbishness. The arrogance is somewhat justifiable, given that it's essentially a self-defence mechanism to make sure I stay confident in myself. The snobbishness is just my horrible tendency to judge people, usually accurately, but without any great value. My personal arrogance is less of a problem than what might be termed my social arrogance. I acknowledge it, and I try to avoid it, but I have a somewhat nasty edge at times.
* Finding someone and attaching myself to them and becoming a little clingy. * Indecisiveness * forgive too easily * too naive at times * too innocent at times * stubbornness
Self-defeating humour, making others laugh at the expense of my own self-esteem, an unimpressive person in general.
My worst trait? Being too open and honest on the interwebs. IRL worst traits? Being - shy, untrusting, skeptical, gloomy, eccentric, indecisive (like, i spend ~30 minutes looking at the menu), spontaneous, observant, incisive, forthright, asocial, careless, cynical, irrational, nihilistic, paranoid, sadistic, tactless, vindictive (i've actually made great progress on this one), wishful. I'm sure there are others but am too lazy to think of them. Oh, there... - lazy! It's not like, i'm all of the above, at the same time. More like, "equipping" and "unequipping" them on a random day to day basis depending on the situation at hand, without even knowing it. I do try and repress these, when i notice them "emerging".
I am very short-tempered and irritable. I usually say or do hurtful things out of anger and then, literally a minute later, I'm sweet as pie and go on like nothing happened. Gotta love being bipolar :eusa_doh: :rolle: I know all it takes is better self control, but I just see red when I'm angry and act impulsively and sometimes irresponsibly. I once pulled a truck driver over because he cut me off in traffic. I nearly bitch-slapped him but when a crowd started to gather around us, I just got back in the car and continued on my merry way. I was so mad I was shaking. Must've been the adrenaline pumping Another bad trait of mine is jealousy. I turn nasty when jealousy takes over I'm also impulsive. Especially when it comes to buying stuff I don't really need
Wow! I am nodding most of the time while reading your posts. Yeah I can see those "negative" traits of some of you. Either I am spending too much time in here or we are becoming a "family". Let's see what're mine... - Being too rude/ruthless - Holding onto hate to go on - Becoming apathic/emotionless really easy.
Wow. Literally all of these for me as well, lol. But let me also add that I am very quiet. That is probably the biggest one for me. I have difficulty opening up and talking to people. That is why I can be overly clingy... When I do get a little comfortable with someone and make a friend, I do that sometimes. And I think I kinda freak them out and they stop associating themselves with me... Although... I do think I am getting better at preventing that.
I have a relatively strong aversion to vulnerability, which is quite crucial to relationships. I tend to fall into laziness and apathy if I'm not careful, (and even then sometimes), and I'm prone to a bit of intellectual arrogance. I keep watch on these qualities, and as far as I'm concerned it's a choice to give into them, and I don't respect myself when I do.
- Defeatist attitude - Tendency to use that defeatist attitude to alienate myself from friends and family - I throw my opinions out at the worst of times, and otherwise keep them to myself to my detriment - Refusal to admit that I'm wrong, to the point of allowing myself to fail - I rarely tell people what's really going on (I'm unnecessarily secretive) Basically, I do this :bang: instead of just climbing over the wall.