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Not out but interested in a fem gay guy

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by mlansing, Oct 15, 2014.

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  1. mlansing

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    Ha, I knew it was a dumb idea.
     
    #21 mlansing, Nov 12, 2014
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    Hi mlansing

    PLEASE, Please, please don’t entertain the idea of settling down with a girl, getting married, and having kids whilst you are very clearly questioning your sexuality to such an extent as to say you’ve really fallen for a guy. Take it from someone who was married over 20 years before discovering I’m gay you will be setting yourself, and the young lady, for a lot of heart ache. Just check out the LGBT Later in Life section of this website to see how many of us older late discoverers wished we had the chance to explore and discover our real sexuality when younger as you do now.

    Use your time wisely whilst at University to explore your sexuality, I’m sure the guy you speak of is not the only gay guy on campus, perhaps the University has Gay Straight Alliance or some other gay resource you could use to find other guys.

    SGG
     
    #22 SaleGayGuy, Nov 13, 2014
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    Update: he broke up with his bf and we ended up dating. It was my first gay experience! We're not together anymore but I'm glad that I had the chance to experience that with him.
     
    #23 mlansing, Jan 12, 2016
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    That's really cool that it worked out that you were able to get together and have a little fun with someone you were so attracted to. I hope it was as exciting as my first experience with the fem guy I was so attracted to. Enjoy life as you wish and love those you are attracted to.
     
    #24 jimL, Jan 12, 2016
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    Thanks :slight_smile:
     
    #25 mlansing, Jan 12, 2016
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    Curious.... why didn't it work out?
     
    #26 Ryuji35, Jan 12, 2016
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    Kind of a long story, but let's just say he didn't end up being good relationship material. I was heartbroken at first but now I'm over it and back on the dating scene (dating guys, that is :slight_smile:
     
    #27 mlansing, Jan 12, 2016
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    Well good luck. I hope you find the perfect guy!!!
     
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