I'm ridiculously shy and awkward so of course I'd like to be approached. It's a shame that I don't get many approachees on a regular basis.
I'm the only one who voted team hermit 4 life? Yeesh. I usually prefer to be approached, but as of late, I highly distrust people's intentions unless they are readily proven harmless. Not necessarily that everyone is scumbags, but because most people who would approach a stranger are either creepers who think they're charming and hilarious, or selling something. But of course if someone is already an acquaintance/ just wants to make friends, I'm happy to return the effort.
I generally approach others. Partially because it gives me some understanding of the situation beforehand and partially because hardly anyone approaches me first.
I am completely shy so I would much rather have someone approach me than approach someone. Most of the time I try my best to talk to others but most of the time I just end up talking if there is something that I know about like their phone or outfit that is different, I comment on it and most of the time that's all it takes to have a conversation.
When I was single, and considering matters of hookups/dating, I preferred to be approached since that let me control the situation and was just less work all around (I am something of a laid back control freak). All I had to do was decide if a guy was someone I wanted to get with and if I didn't I was confident I could be nice about turning him down (because being nice never hurts and costs nothing). If I found a guy sufficiently attractive however, I would make a move or make it clear I was very open to him making a move (which is the same thing, I suppose). In terms of the rest of my life, I will often just do the approaching or equivalent since my personality is such that I really believe that if I want something done right, I have to do it myself. This conflicts with the other part of me that really gets tired of having to take care of everything myself and would like someone else to 'drive' for a while - which can lead to me putting things off or holding back and hoping someone else will step up and take care of things. This rarely works :dry: Todd
Noo! People! Hissss! I'm a hermit please. I'd say approached, but what if they're creepy!? I can't turn someone down anymore than I can approach someone. I'm gonna end up being killed by a psycho... or worse, coerced into a straight relationship.
I'd say approached. I am completely introverted and shy. I'd never have the guts to approach, and even then, may not have the guts to be approached ._.
Generally, I like being approached, as I am super shy and anxious with social situations, though I'm working on it and I think I'm getting better at doing the approaching when I have to.
I voted Team Hermit, but I would prefer being approached over approaching someone. I automatically become the most socially awkward person on the planet when trying to flirt, so that just isn't really an option.
Outside of dating? If I have to approach someone, I will. I might be introverted, but I'm certainly not shy -- which is a point that I have to clarify too often. If we're doing group projects in a class, I'm usually the first to contact my partners. If I want to platonically hang out with someone, I'll ask 'em. But in anything remotely more than platonic, I just can't. The vast majority of my female friends have been made by them approaching me, cuz I'm just sitting here like :eusa_droo :redface:
I get a feeling-- sometimes I'm wrong, sometimes I'm right. But just go up and say hi, you've got nothing to lose. I like both, approacher and approachee
I'm extremely shy and introverted until I feel comfortable around a person, so I prefer to be approached.
