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GIRLS!!! Is it wrong for us to make the first move?

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  1. Cap’nSerious

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    Traditionally yeah, guys are suppose initiate pretty everything in a relationship, but it’s changing. It’s not that uncommon for a girl to make the first move any more, my cousin actually got married to guy on which she made the first move. You did nothing wrong :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:
     
    #21 Cap’nSerious, Aug 20, 2014
  2. Wuggums47

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    Considering it's no longer the 19th century, I don't see the problem.
     
    #22 Wuggums47, Aug 20, 2014
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    Certain types of guy ask women out constantly. These are also the ones that want to reinforce this system because if girls started asking on their own, they'd find they can do much better than the curb grease that constantly approaches them. Suddenly these guys that have confidence bordering on arrogance, but no other assets, would find they simply can't compete with shy hotties that they normally cut in front of.
     
    #23 Spatula, Aug 20, 2014
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    Make the first move as long as you're okay with it. Just make sure that you're 110% sure about it because people tend to talk, so it's important that you think for a bit about how you want to do it and how you want him to think about the relationship with you.
     
    #24 sarahpenny02, Aug 20, 2014
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    No!
     
    #25 Pret Allez, Aug 20, 2014
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    Making the first move is ok as long as it involves making him a sandwich.



    No but seriously, I think that rule is stupid. I've made the first move plenty of times. Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't, but I think it's better than waiting around like a princess who can't go anywhere unless the prince asks her to.
     
    #26 wanderinggirl, Aug 20, 2014
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    And you should be proud of yourself. Mostly guys have no idea that a girl likes them , girls get 'signs' way better. Girls need to go for what they want.
     
    #27 MyLittleWorld, Aug 20, 2014
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    I think if your brave enough to make the first move then you should go for it, I wish I was.
     
    #28 Samantha2014, Aug 20, 2014
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    No. It's an archaic tradition which demeans the girl from having any authority in the relationship. Just go with your gut. If he truly likes you, then he won't care how it happened, but just that it did. :slight_smile:
     
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    Girl I flirted with for a couple months before asking, said she had been waiting for me to ask her out. :eusa_doh:
     
    #30 Kai LD, Aug 20, 2014
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    What are lesbians supposed to do, if women can't make the first move?
     
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    There always has to be a man in the relationship. :rolle:
     
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    You could say it's... MAN-datory.

    Dear God, that was horrible... LOL!
     
    #33 Kaiser, Aug 20, 2014
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    Why would it be?
     
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    i don't care that was cute :lol:
     
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    This is very true, but I was thinking more on the lines of the stereotypical "guy has to make the first move on the girl". I think lesbian relationships are a little different as it involves two girls. I don't believe that there has to be a "guy" in a lesbian relationship. We are two girls that's it. You do, however, make quite a good point.

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    It's been a while since I've seen one of your corny lines round here :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes: I've missed them!
     
    #36 Young Blood, Aug 20, 2014
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