Pretty sure I'm on the verge of making a big, HUGE mistake. Why is the dark side so fucking seductive?
“Fear is the path to the dark side. Fear leads to anger. Anger leads to hate. Hate leads to suffering.”
In my situation, I'd disagree. With the choice I'm facing, it would take courage to make it, but only because I'm well aware of the outcome. The question is: Is instant gratification worth the harm it'll cause down the road? Seems good and fun and enticing now, but I know it's going to hurt me later, and probably others. I know that should answer my dilemma, but like I said, it's just so damn seductive.
If it's going to screw up your relationship, why would you? It seems like you have a good thing going from everything I have read.
In my opinion, no. I'm in a similar situation with my schoolwork. Do I slack off and enjoy my time now, or do I work hard, so I can have a better future? I chose the latter. Or tried to, anyway. I am very tempted to slack off, since I'm a very lazy person who procrastinates a lot, but I'm getting there. I think. It's probably less dire than your situation, but yeah. If the temptation is strong, you can always try distracting yourself by doing something else.
Not directly, but maybe by some sort of secondhand effect. Yeah, I'm not going to do it. I keep saying to myself, "Dane, you're so much smarter than this. Shouldn't even be an option." I've always wrestled with succumbing to instant gratification of many sorts. It's one of my weaknesses. But I shall resist.
You are smarter Dane. You give great advice to other people on this forum, so turn the tables. If it was someone else, what would the smart you tell them to do?
So encouraging, so supportive... I knew there was a reason I liked you guys. ---------- Post added 27th Jun 2014 at 06:09 PM ---------- I'd tell them if you know from the get-go that your choice has the potential of harming you or anyone else, then it's probably not a good idea. Good point. Touche.
Yep, I respect you as well, Dane. You've overcome a lot of obstacles in your life and are very self-aware. I too have dealt with a lot of temptations and instant self-gratification in my life; I have been able to avoid a lot of them thankfully. You coming to ask for help and advice shows maturity. I hope to find someone like you out there.
Wow, thank you. Leave it to you guys to somehow make me feel good about myself after being on the verge of making a colossal mistake. The advice and encouragement is much appreciated.
You're a good guy. You've got internal struggles, like everyone. It's the outcome of the struggles, not the struggles themselves that determine what kind of person you are.
Sometimes I forget that me and my demons are separate entities, not one and the same. That's another thing I'm consistently working on is the distinction. They're a part of me, but they don't define me. Thank you for the insight and your kind words
