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Starting to like my "gay identity"

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  1. confuseduser99

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    I can't believe I'm saying this, but I'm actually starting to like referring to myself as "gay". I mean, not publicly or to people, but to myself. I'm somewhat comfortable telling myself that I'm gay, and also referring to myself as gay to my sister (the only person I came out to). Just on Saturday when I came out to her, I couldn't even say the word "gay" with myself in the same sentence. I would cringe and be grossed out. Now, I am able to say that I'm gay to her, and I even feel comfortable talking about attractive guys with her.

    Have any of you had a similar experience in your "coming out journey"?
     
    #1 confuseduser99, May 13, 2014
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    Never came out before :thumbsup:
     
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    Yep, been there...wonderful isn't it? :grin:
     
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    I'm totally there right now! I'm actually enjoying calling myself bisexual :slight_smile: It's a great feeling isn't it? :grin:
     
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    It sure is fun talkin' about cute guys! :grin:
     
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    It sure is! I never thought I'd like it... I always thought I'd be a self-hating gay, even to myself. WOW! Have I come a long way in such a short period of time!
     
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    Yes, it took about a year to where I could say to myself audibly, "I am bisexual."
     
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    Saying it to my self audibly is still a little weird. Saying it to my sister however isn't... Looks like I'm still working on being 100% comfortable with my sexuality! but hey, I'm a work in progress!
     
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    It feels pretty liberating to be able to utter the words; "I am gay", to other people. For like the first month or so I could not imagine me verbally telling another that I am gay. It feels good to do so and talk about cute guys around my gal pals and my friends who are gay :slight_smile:
     
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    Sometimes, when alone, I'll utter "I'm gay." It's so strong and weird. I still have trouble saying "I'm gay" to someone else because I even tremble a bit (based on the few people I've told). It's easier for me to say, "I like guys."
     
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    I oddly feel more comfortable saying I like dicks then I do saying I'm gay.
     
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    its taken a bit but i'm there at the moment :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:ride:
     
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    And sometimes that is actually easier. Before tonight, the person that I came out to last had to text me to ask if I was gay or not because I could not have the words leave my mouth (for some reason) and so I could just say yes which is WAYY easier.
     
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    It's even better when you feel comfortable referring to a guy as "my boyfriend"!
     
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    Maybe that'll happen someday for me...
     
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    It was and still is a really satisfying feeling. I've been completely out for about three weeks and I just feel so free :slight_smile:

    I'm glad you feel comfortable with calling yourself "gay". I wish you the best in the future :slight_smile:
     
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    It's happening to me too. And I'm happy about it, well first of all because I'll never end up with an unwanted child :grin: and second because other people won't experience things the way I can. I'm finally starting to like who I am in general. I still can't really look at my reflection in mirrors though.
     
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    That's awesome. I'm not completely out, but just being out to myself and to my sister feels amazing!

    I wish you the best as well! :slight_smile:
     
    #18 confuseduser99, May 14, 2014
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    Reading this makes me smile so much. When I look back at your postings from a couple of weeks ago, I saw a man with so much inner conflict, doubt and personal shame and now look at you.. liking your gay identity. Long may it continue. :icon_bigg
     
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    Awww :grin:
    Oh come here you!
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