Tomorrow is the first day of a very different life. I just can't stop crying. My husband moves into his rented house tomorrow. :tears:
I get thism even though it's for a good reasons it's hard saying goodbye to someone you've spent so much of your life with, perfectly normal. My wife moved out last month and I'm yet to sleep through the night, gets easier though. Chin up. X. Your gonna be fine.
Penpal, I'm hurting for you right now. I think I know the pain. It's rough stuff. Since the divorce I've cried so hard that I thought I injured myself. I've never felt anything like it. But the good news is, it's been months since I've cried that hard and weeks since I've cried at all. For a while (months actually) I cried every day. Everyone is right that the pain doesn't last forever. I "leaned into" the pain. Really got in there and sounded the depths of those emotions since I had sealed away all emotion for so long. Feeling something so profound was oddly satisfying and necessary. Hang in there. Big hug from me!!
I'm yet to go through what you are going through penpal,But I do believe it will get better for you.You are going through the grieving stages of course your going to feel upset,lost and confused.But hold on tight and keep posting here keep moving forward.I admire your strength I am yet to build up my courage because I know it's going to happen we have had the talks many times.And now it's pretty much up to me to tell him to leave.It feels like crap trying to get through the fake life I'm living part of me is looking forward to living the real me while other is afraid.You are an inspiration and know you are cared by lots of people going through the same situation as you.Your not alone,Big hugs your way x
Be gentle with yourself. Its good to cry as it is so hard going through this. Cry, cry until it hurts doing this clears out all that grief you have in your heart at the moment. Hugs to you dear Penpal. XX
I was really messed up when my wife and kids moved out of the house. It was so hard. But things settled down and it has worked out alright. I wish the same for you!
Thank you all for your comments. It was really difficult saying goodbye to him. We hugged and I couldn't stop crying. It was difficult going to work today and was the first day back to school for my boys. The youngest was really nervous and upset about going back. Both of them are playing me up but I guess that's normal considering. My friends want to see me but I went to my friends 40th on Saturday and I really struggled to do the social bit. All I wanted to do was cry and I had tears in my eyes all night. I think people noticed but I didn't tell them what was going on because I didn't want to spoil the night for everyone. I'm just a mess at the moment and trying to keep my job and the kids going is hard enough without socialising with happy couples. I know it's early days and I will survive but it just feels like everyone wants something from me at the moment and I have nothing left to give.
Let those friends who want to see you know that you need them - and let them know how they could help. Maybe it's minding your kids for an evening. Maybe it's going for coffee so you can talk. Maybe it's picking your kids up so that you can get something finished at the office... We think that we should be able to cope on our own, but the reality is that we sometimes can't - we need help from others. You deserve it.