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The "do I pass" thread

Discussion in 'Gender Identity and Expression' started by Just Jess, Apr 16, 2014.

  1. Kasey

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    The only thing that isn't convincing is the fades on the side. Screams drill sergeant. Short hair is fine. But the buzzcut doesn't work.

    You have a feminine appearance and you remind me currently of one of my friends' mother.

    Fix the buzzcut on the side and I'd put the fabulous woman stamp of approval on you.
     
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    Thank you, Kasey! I really appreciate the feedback and encouragement.

    My short hair and the gray in it have been the things I've been most concerned about in my appearance. It's growing out nicely, though, and I'm thinking of coloring it--but the concern is that could be the bad kind of conversation-starter for people who know me only as male.

    I just bought a flat iron, so tonight I'll try heat curling my hair for the first time. I'm sure I'll be an *absolute genius* at it. :dry:

    For anyone else who has a moment to comment, here are a couple recent ones of me. I'm grateful for any comments, good or bad. If you spot something that's off, maybe I can find a way to improve on it.

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  3. Kasey

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    Grey is no problem. Age and such bring that. Beauty comes in all forms. But as I said... Short hair traditionally is a male thing, particularly buzzed sides. And yes I'm very self conscious about hair.
     
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    Looks okay Kit. Just need longer hair. :slight_smile:
     
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    Oh, the thing about the gray is that it makes it *look* like the hair is very short there, when it isn't really. But it kind of tricks the eye into making it look like it vanishes. But if as it grows longer and becomes obviously, you know, *not* not there, if I don't have to color it, so much the better!
     
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    I think you look beautiful and classy, kinda like Jamie Lee Curtis 20 years years ago. Your eyes are really pretty, nice job on the subtle makeup, and I love your smile. I think you pull off short hair as a woman, but maybe the style is not quite right.
     
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    Yay! Thanks, Ricky and Brooke!
     
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    Jamie Lee... that's right. You do look like her.
     
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    Yeah, I thought I was just thinking about the hair, but I looked up pictures to remind myself and it's almost uncanny. Especially the mouth and jawline. Eyes too though.
     
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    @KitSylph Kit you are stunning - you have a lovely warm smile! I'm a big fan of the subtle makeup too :slight_smile:
     
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    You definitely pass for male. If I saw you irl, I would of thought you were a guy, no questions. The only thing I could give advice on, is that picture with the glasses. The round frame kind of does the opposite of complimenting your facial features in a masculine way, and instead, reflected a bit of roundness with your face. If you actually need glasses, I suggest a square frame instead.
    Now.. For the tough thing and please.. whoever does this, be harsh if you have to. I already seem to pass 90% around strangers, but I think it is mainly my voice that does it. My voice is not feminine, and has a very raw sound to it. I have been going back and forth with the thought on cutting my hair as well.. Like, if I am definitely passing as a long haired guy, I kind of want to keep it just so when (if) I get on testosterone, and I can grow facials, I'd want a beard to compliment the hair.. a Jesus look, you can say. I eventually want that lol. Especially since like, if it's not just my voice doing it and I am also passing physically, that would just be awesome really. But if the hair makes it questionable.. I'd probably want to cut it to a little above the shoulders and layer it so I could spike it a bit if I wanted to maybe.

    ---------- Post added 19th Jan 2017 at 04:55 PM ----------

    Darn it, I was ninja'ed. But pepper doesn't seem to have any pictures yet, so I can't do anything.
     
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    You look surprisingly masculine even with that hair. Nice
     
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    omg thank you. That means a lot to me! Especially since I was debating on keeping it this long.
     
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    PrinceVegeta that look actually works. You look like you should be playing in a death metal band. lol
     
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    Np you look awesome. Kinda like Snape, Orochimaru and Nathan Explosion had a baby haha.
     
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    You look very male and I would never guess you were AFAB. That jawline could cut someone.

    Personally I think you could pull off an Andy Biersack look, either with the long hair or an undercut.
     
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    I am feeling suuuper unsure at the moment if I pass so I am super glad that there is a thread like this ^^.
    Any advise or comments are appreciated.
     
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    Pass.

    Shorter haircut without the side bangs = super pass.
     
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    *growls and pig squeals*
    Really though, thank you xD
    :roflmao: I laughed so hard, but this is a wonderful comment. Thank you sir, you are awesome.

    Thank you:sunglasses: Always wished I could grow a bear though, so if that ever happens - jawline covered (!) And thanks. I will keep that thought in mind if I ever decided to get the hairs chopped.

    Also.. To mika : You pretty much pass, but if you do anything to your eyebrows, you should stop; the bushier the brows, the more manly your face will most likely appear. I agree with kasey about the hair too: get rid of the side bangs. Also, some people could make the tame look on hair look great, but it just makes you look a bit feminine. I suggest you either cut it a bit shorter and spike it, or ruffle your hands through it and shag it out a bit. Also, your eyes, they are wide. I am not suggesting to squint, but most men tend to have less wide eyes compared to women. It may help you to look more masculine if you practice .. "semi squinting", where you kind of have your eyelids lowered, but you're not exactly squinting. It may make your eyes look less wide, thus creating a more masculine feature.
     
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    I wouldn't dare calling Vegeta anything other than perfect in fear of retribution.