I agree with what's been said so far. Let's face it, none of these things should be issues. I have to say also, that I think it's worse if they come from the LGBT community directed at us because they really should know better, having been through this kind of prejudice themselves. You can almost taste the hypocrisy. It almost makes you feel that the B in LGBT is just there out of pity or to shut us up. Personally think these are the biggest issues that bother me. 1. People not believing you are or can be bisexual (the whole we don't exist issue) - I really hate this one as it is essentially someone else telling you what you can and can't be and feel. How dare they? If I started on at them saying you can't be like this or can't feel that, I know what the reaction would be.. 2. Thinking that if we are with a partner, we will never be truly happy or fulfilled as we will always be pining for someone of the opposite gender to our partners - I think this one is really damaging and can prevent us from finding true love as it causes people to fear being in relationships with us over fear we will not be happy with them or will cheat on them. It paints us as unfaithful and untrustworthy which gets me most if all as I can't stand someone insulting my honour and integrity. Additionally I think this is totally unfounded as it's no different to say a straight guy who likes, say, white women and Asian women. If he is with a white woman, you wouldn't assume he will be unfulfilled because he "needs" an Asian woman as well. You get the point..... There are more but these are the biggest ones for me. Let's hope people and society can move past such baseless ideas and we can all just learn to live and love together. Happy days
Both of them you listed has to do with insecurities on both gay and hetero side about bisexual people . and some of the insecurities don't have to do with bisexuals at all well one of them
I don't really think so. As strong as the temptation to practice bisexual separatism is, if we were to become separatists, we would be expressing a deep, political hatred of gays and lesbians. We're telling them that we don't think they can change. I don't think introducing that kind of a fracture is good for queer civil rights overall.
There is...that's why they have bi pride day on September 23. Well they do here in Canada anyway... But to add to the list of issues/stereotypes that were said, not existing is definitely a big one (we're not unicorns, we are here!!), we're liars, we're confused, we're in "transition", and we're greedy (wtf does that even mean?). It makes me a little upset when I hear about these things...I guess maybe monogamous individuals, whether gay or straight, can't comprehend the concept of being able to love two genders...? That's just my theory....I am in no way attacking the gay or straight communities. I know that not everyone thinks this way...I know a lot of gay and straight people and they are all fine with bisexual individuals, so please don't take what I said as an attack...I'm only expressing an opinion or theory, if you will.
If you were really a bisexual, you would date more girls. If you were really a bisexual, you would date more boys. Bisexuals can’t be monogamous. When things get stressful, you’ll throw your same-sex partner under the bus. You people just want to play the field/ have sex with everything that moves. You’re just afraid to come “all the way out.” Bisexuals spread diseases to our community. It’s our permissive culture that’s made you this way. Bisexuals have no sexual ethics. It’s your fault there’s homophobia. ---------- Post added 1st May 2014 at 11:40 PM ---------- I agree
Amen. Especially to the last one ---------- Post added 2nd May 2014 at 12:06 AM ---------- - People won't date you because you'll leave them for a man/woman. - I can't make up my mind - it's easier for me to stay in the closet because I can "just date men" - I won't stay with a girl because it's "easier" to marry a man Apparently I didn't know my sexuality made me a bad person.
A variation on this theme: That you must be exactly 50/50 attracted & interested in (and DATE!) males & females, or else your bisexuality is invalid: Admit it, you're just GAY or STRAIGHT! :rolle: Only the individual knows what is inside of them; no one outside has any cause or right to question that self-reporting of inner experience.
I think one of the biggest problems is that people think that because a bi person is able to be attracted to both sexes, that they can change their orientation if they wanted to. For straight people this means if Bis 'wanted' to, they could love the opposite sex instead, so bisexuality is a choice, and they could be straight if they wanted. For gay people this means that they can 'choose' to be with the same sex only, but they don't so they don't want to lose their 'straight' privilege and can't be trusted. This of course all stems from insecurity in both cultures and it's pretty sad, actually.
EVERYBODY in our colorful community need to stick together. I have experienced too many Gay people telling what I need to be and what I cannot be. Thinking that it's ok to believe think and say that Bisexuals are not real, are pretentious or promiscuous and so on...it is sickening. Before we can change the world we need to change the people who we share hardship with in our communities respectfully.
I never understood why people think that. I think some people can't tell the difference between variety and quantity. Being bi means you have a larger variety in taste, not a greater need for more.... Happy days
Please. I'm the least promiscuous of all my LGBT buddies. I'm downright celibate. (You'd expect all teenagers to be celibate, though, right?) Just like the gay, lesbian, and trans stereotypes, there's a whole slew of bi stereotypes that we have to debunk.
I agree with you. Among all my LGBT friends I feel like a celibate prude, except for my extremely perverted nature. I have thought about just not worry anymore about my sexuality and telling people because coming out as bisexual just makes things much more complicated than they were to begin with. I think people are jealous of us being able to love indiscriminately, so they call us greedy to justify thier jealousy. I could not be more happy, as a bisexual I feel like I have recieved a precious gift.
