It is very hard out there . I don't get sometimes how straight people say they can't find men or women because they can go up and just ask anyone unless like they had social anxiety
It's also pretty easy for girls. All they have to do is look cute/sexy, look a guy in the eye and smile. Usually the guy will start flirting. I've done this a few times by accident and it was awkward.
It is very easy for us all we have to do is look nice and a guy comes up . I had been hit on by a lot of guys but one thing I can't stand is when they call me baby and I'm not dating them !!:tantrum: . Plus the dating sites for lesbians that aren't free are messed up you have to pay to talk to someone and they charge you a lot of money plus you can end up not meeting anyone and end up broke their are men on the site pretending to be girls it's just crazy .
The trouble with bars/clubs is they're generally better for hook-ups than for people who want a relationship. I suppose places that don't have blaring loud music are probably a bit better because you can have an actual conversation without shouting. Ironically enough there is actually a LGBT nightclub that is a taxi ride away from where I live but for a few reasons that's a no-go for me. Firstly most of the people that go there are straight anyway because it's the closest nightclub to the rural villages on the outskirts of town. Secondly it is very dance-centric which is fairly useless if like me you can't even walk properly without your joints seizing up. Thirdly the one time I tried to go there I had a bad experience when a very drunk and aggressive regular took one look at my walking stick and decided this made it ok to grab me by the throat, punch my legs and verbally abuse me for no reason. Nobody tried to stop it and apparently they have a lot of problems with stuff like that. A friend of mine that used to love it there has stopped going because it was getting too dangerous. :icon_sad:
My city is pretty LGBT friendly, it's kind of odd that there are no LGBT bars downtown, hang-out spots or get togethers... I blame Baltimore being so damned close...
I'm in Toronto which is VERY LGBT friendly. But I don't live downtown, which is where the hub of everything is. And I heard that we don't actually have an exclusively lesbian bar anymore. There are regular gay parties though, but I haven't found the courage to go :/
